I'll throw in my 2 cents in regards to pump choice.
I think the biggest mistake I made when plumbing my system is that I chose to run one large pump to get the flow I was after versus running two smaller pumps. Redundancy in this hobby is your friend...it can be a real life saver. If one pump fails, the other should keep your system up and running until you address the problem with the failed pump. The bonus is that running two smaller pumps can often be more efficient than running one large pump (see examples below).
If your system has 5' of head like you mentioned in post #7, and you are looking for 4,500GPH, I would recommend getting two Laguna Max Flo 2900. Each pump will push 2,245GPH @ 5' head on 112 watts (total flow = 4,490GPH on 224 watts, which comes out to 20GPH per watt, which is very efficient).
To get the flow you want from Reeflo pumps, you would probably have to get two Reeflo Darts (or Super Darts) and valve them back a little to get to 4,500GPH. If you were to run them wide open at 5' of head, they would each push around 3,200GPH on ~170 watts, so that may be more flow than you want/need, at 6,400GPH (efficiency would be 18.8GPH per watt). The next smaller Reeflo model (the Snapper) would only get you around 1,700GPH each on 100 watts; if you ran two of them that'd get you a total of around 3,400GPH on 200 watts (17GPH per watt).
If you are comfortable running only one pump, the Hammerhead will push around 5,400GPH on ~350 watts (15GPH per watt...the least efficient option yet). If you decide to run one pump, you really should have a back-up on-hand in case it fails, so that's why I suggest running two smaller pumps simultaneously. It's cheaper to purchase two smaller pumps (versus buying two large pumps...remember, you will want to have one as a back-up) and run them simultaneously and it's also cheaper on the electric bill because of the increased efficiency versus running one monster pump.
In regards to your total dynamic head, I think you will probably be closer to 5’ or 6’ (maybe 7' tops), but check out this site if you wanted to get more precise:
http://www.valler.com/fish/tips.html