Help. my girlfriend is killing her fish and says im WRONG and shes RIGHT...

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Fire Eel
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ok so my girlfriend has a 10 gallon tank she decided to go SALTWATER with it (even though she has no clue about ANY fishkeeping maintenance). well her efforts are good, but what shes doing is completely wrong!

I told her she doesn't have to change the water so often as every few months but she doesn't listen to me. thats fine however, she always does 100% water changes! i told her shes killing her fish and she says "omg u act like you know everything, the directions are on the salt package so im gonna listen to that and not you." so i try to explain to her how it can send her fish through bioshock but she says "no i put them in pure unused clean saltwater and they never die". shes had fish for a few months and everytime her tank clouds she freaks out and does another 100% water change.

she also has fish from different parts of the ocean, 3 critters from the tidepools and 1 from the coral reef... and i can't explain to her that she needs to consider salinity level differences but nope, she continues on to say "the instructions on the salt box says yadda yadda yadda and thats how much im gonna put in".

so now its a battle between me, and a generalized instructional salt box... so every 2 weeks or so, or whenever it happends her water clouds up from imbalances and again, she freaks and empties her tank and fills it up with more seasalt and water...

what can i do? i don't want her fish to all die this year... (not that she'd know they're sapposed to live longer than that...)
 
Tell her to join mfk I'm sure she will listen when 100+mfk salt water pros are telling her with pics of their set ups
 
Well u said she has had the tank for a few months and they have not died yet.. So in part she thinks she is doing a good job, some women will never listen to her boyfriend/husband same as men wont listen to their wife/girlfriend.. it seems that u have some experience since u have over 600 posts, so make her an account and she can use some advice from the experts..
 
shes not exactly a typer or forum person. (she laughs at me that i even joined mfk). shes like "omg your obsessed with fish LOL". despite this, she thinks i don't know what im talking about and said quote

"Who am i gonna listen to, a professional on the box or my boyfriend who always thinks hes right and a bunch of his unknown fish friends on mfk. they could all be lying the internet is false info" unquote... ARRRG IT PISSES ME OFF!! I really like her fish too so it pains me even more since i love saltwater!!

thing is also, shes not concerned about what shes doing at all so she doesn't care to learn the right way... she already killed her starfish and takes it as a mishap when it was clearly bleeding from the inside out...
 
Well, just remember we all make mistakes along the way in this hobby... some people just need to learn the hard way.

Be patient with her and let her make the mistakes its the only way she'll learn.
 
if she is that thick headed. set up a salt water tank at your house, take her fish and say they died... lol then maybe she will believe u
 
kill her fish and then be like i told you so
 
ummmmmm did you say salt box PLEASE TELL ME SHE IS NOT TRYING TO DO SW WITH AQUARIUM SALT PLEASE
 
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