What do you think some of the negative reasons are that a couple might stay together? I'm not part of a couple, but I would just like to hear some opinions.
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Fear/reluctance of breaking out of your rut. In my first serious relationship I was with the girl for 3.5 years. The last 1.5 were just because the break up would be a lot of work. I was living with her, I really didn't want to hurt her, etc etc.
Now of course I realize that it's not fair to either person involved and as soon as you think it's over you should talk about it with your s/o and either fix it or break it off.
Now of course I realize that it's not fair to either person involved and as soon as you think it's over you should talk about it with your s/o and either fix it or break it off.
Meniscus said:
Haha holy cow you sound like me... my first serious relationship i was with the guy for 3.5 years. Living together, neither of us were happy, neither of us ended it for various reasons. Finally one Sunday morning after a Saturday night of arguing when we were supposed to be going out with friends, I packed up my ***** while he was sleeping and left. One of the hardest things I ever did in my life, but one of the best. I still talk to him every once in a while. Infact, he called my cell phone about an hour ago but I didn't answer cause I'm not in the mood to deal with him, but the fact we can remain civil to each other means a lot to me. My friends are my family, so when I lose one, its like losing a family member.
I'm only 25 and I've lived with 2 people. My first I was together with her for 3.5 years, living with her for 1.5. Another I was with for 2 years, lived with her for a year. It's odd that I could be so wrong about 2 people. Oh well, I learned from both of those experiences.... I think!! 
Springtyme: Heh, that IS similar! My ex got back from a 2 week vacation and while she was gone I realized that I had to end it. I was so much happier with her gone. So when she got back I broke the news to her. Totally crushed her unfortunately. But in the end it was definitely for the best. Last I heard she was married with a kid now! Hopefully she is happy. I know I'm a lot happier
Springtyme: Heh, that IS similar! My ex got back from a 2 week vacation and while she was gone I realized that I had to end it. I was so much happier with her gone. So when she got back I broke the news to her. Totally crushed her unfortunately. But in the end it was definitely for the best. Last I heard she was married with a kid now! Hopefully she is happy. I know I'm a lot happier
I sure hope not or else my brain is playing some major tricks on me!!
Overall I think there are lots of negative reasons that couples stay together, and I never think that it's healthy. It just ends up making everyone involved unhappy. My advice to anyone out there is that the second you realize you are in a relationship for the wrong reason GET OUT no matter how hard you think it will be. Waiting will only make it worse.
Overall I think there are lots of negative reasons that couples stay together, and I never think that it's healthy. It just ends up making everyone involved unhappy. My advice to anyone out there is that the second you realize you are in a relationship for the wrong reason GET OUT no matter how hard you think it will be. Waiting will only make it worse.