Interesting. I haven't done what you are doing, but maybe I can help a tiny bit at least to start the discussion. Keep in mind others might have lots of corrections. The following is based on my hazy recollections from reading about this 3 years ago.
Keep in mind as well that this may not be what you are setting up, so a lot of this might not apply, and of course I might be explaining the construction incorrectly as well.
The 3-standpipe construction is one that I first heard called a Bean Animal overflow. The Herbie style was the one I thought was a 2-standpipe construction.
In both cases, one pipe was supposed to be full siphon and the other(s) were meant to be very small volume as trickle and/or emergency overflow tubes. The goal was to be silent and safe in the overflow while handling large volumes of water. (That's my take and others can certainly disabuse me of my notions to their heart's content.)
Under the Bean Animal style (according to the website that I had read a couple years ago) you indeed should have almost all of the flow going through 1 tube. Having more than a trickle going through a second tube will create the gurgling draining noise that the construction is meant to eliminate. The second tube should be nearly silent, so that would imply a low flow from having a small stream draining along the side of the tube. The third tube iirc was meant as a backup full siphon tube that should never be needed unless the main siphon tube failed. I don't recall that all 3 tubes were meant to be operating simultaneously. Again, my recollection is that the 3rd tube was set higher than the other 2 so that it only drained when the first tube couldn't handle all the flow. Having all 3 draining at the same time isn't what I recalled as the normal operating conditions.
The amount of water that will drain through 1 open pipe under siphon can indeed be immense depending upon tube diameter, distance of drop, curvature or bends in the pipe from the water entering the tube to the point that the water exits, and the manner in which the water exits the tube.
Attached is a link to a calculator but I think it's more complex than this demonstrates.
http://www.beananimal.com/articles/hydraulics-for-the-aquarist.aspx