I found this to be a common problem with frilled dragons. The mites hide in the neck area thats covered by the animals flap of skin and so they arn't visible unless you make it mad. When i voulenteered at a pet store, we go our animals in from some horrible distributor, reason being, he was "cheap". The owner sold the Firlled dragons without even once looking at them.
For your situation, I blame the owner. He is not responcible enough to buy from a reputable breeder and mites is one of the problems you have encountered. Who knows what else is wrnog with them on the inside.