How do you tell someone about a bad habit

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hanwyz

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Just wondering, how do you tell someone about a habit that is driving you up the wall? In this case, eating with mouth wide open, incredibly loudly, getting food everywhere and talking with mouth full... I have little patience with this, and when I was five I refused to invite someone to my party because they ate with their mouth open. I would have expected by the time someone reaches adulthood, they would understand basic eating etiquette. Thing is, this person is horrified by finger food and will eat everything (including some sandwiches) with a knife and fork. Anyone any suggestions? Just I'm going absolutely insane with it and am almost at a point where I don't want to eat around this person any more...
 
Friend or family? How close are you? Do you want or need to be around this person? They may not realize they do it and most likely don't realize it bothers you so just bring the subject up in the same way you discuss serious issues with this person.
 
Be honest with them.
 
Partner of over a year... I've tried mentioning it and tried ignoring it but it's just getting worse... he's quite sensitive with criticism so not sure what to do... problem is, I can see this affecting his career as well, business people probably won't be impressed by awful table manners... would you say just have a normal conversation with him about it? I don't want to hugely upset him, but this is really driving me batty...
 
Sounds like you have four choices. 1- Just live with it. 2- Walk away. 3- Confront and let the chips fall where they may. 4- Get a close, and tactful, friend or family member to broach the subject.
 
I agree with the advice that has been given.
 
Probably going to try and get a friend to be tactful first... he listens to this friend more than me... if that doesn't work, then I'll have to man up and have a face to face convo... I don't want to leave him - I love him whatever - just some things really need dealing with so the relationship stays strong... thanks for the advice :) I'm not fantastic with people and tact etc...

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Give little signs here and there, like mention how loud they eat or call it a turnoff. Don't rush it or you may offend! I hate loud chewing and I straight up punch people

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Ok, we have a plan (my tactful friend and I). On Sunday we are going out for a meal, so she will quietly ask him to eat properly... in the meantime I will drop small hints when eating with him... fingers crossed... thanks for all the help :)

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