How long would you put up with a wife who won't?

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Our first year, I was everything she wanted. Holding a stable job, hiding presents and making treasure hunts, daily compliments, doing the chores and anything else she asked of me. I thought maybe it was just a time thing, that she would get into it with time. But she eventually quit trying altogether. I confront her on it about once a week and she always has these perfect paradoxical excuses like "I get tingly all over and have to stop" or other weird whiny excuses. And she refuses to let any counselors into our life. What I'm wondering is, how long do I put up with this before leaving her? I'm not getting any younger and I only have one life. Since she is basically flat out refusing to fulfill her vows, why am I still with her?
 
DUDE! Not much longer. She's gotta fulfill her duty if she wants it to work out.

Sorry to hear your having marriage probs. GL
 
thats rubbish mate sad to hear, no good is coming out of a unhappy marriage but sadness and misery. good luck with what ever you decide to do.
 
you should see a counselor for help ... just to talk to someone and get their point of view so you can have a better understanding would help so much.. you have all these questions about why... but your getting no answers...
 
Eh i am lost..

Is she just not into you as much?

Or are you just not getting any?

Either one is grounds for conversating, and if that can't happen, outside help should be seeked. Otherwise that is grounds for leaving, because they just are not trying.

(i dont know **** about marriage, but that what my mommy says)
 
We still love each other. Hugs and smiles abound. Kisses are blocked heavily with her forehead most of the time, though. I actually think she likes girls and is afraid to admit it because of her strict christian upbringing.

She refuses to see a counselor.
 
My head's been hanging below my shoulders for almost a year now...
 
That really sucks to hear... I know I have been there at your exact spot with my first wife, its not a good place to be.

I think that you both need to sit down and talk with a professional counselor about this, but it sounds like she doesn't want any part of that ...
The bottom line for any relationship to work and grow and prosper you both have be willing to negotiate and must learn to give and take.... it sounds like you are the only one giving... which works for a bit until you get tired of being the only one who is giving....

I really hope everything works out the best for you.
 
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