here is my story friday i got my female rd for 2 days my male wanted nothing to do with her he kept her in the corner if the tank this mornin i woke up to feed them befor going to work and she was swimming around. (improvment) i get home from work and watch them for a bit she was flaring gills and shaking her head like she was a seizures like 5 times and picking up gravel and spiting it out and the male and female were brushing up to eachother and then the male would pick up gravel and spit it out