The value of relationships has reduced to a large extent in recent times, owing to the ever increasing pressures that we all face in many aspects of life. The numerous responsibilities and roles we play each day can cause a strain in important relatonships in our lives.
Why else do we see more divorces and nuclear families nowadays? It is largely because most of us take our loved ones for granted. Sprinting up the career ladder is an admirable quality but you must halt once in a while to look behind you to see if you are at the risk of losing more than you would like to, when you get to the top.
Your understanding spouse and adorable kids need to be assured that you still care and love them, while you are busy chasing your dreams. You may not have the energy or time to hang around with them or help out with the chores at home each day, but you can surely fit in a few moments of affection whenever you can.
“I am doing all this for the family.”
Of course you are! What use would it be if no one is around when you reach the finish line?
“I will have all the time in the world to spend with them”
That is taking their existence for granted. Maybe they don’t feel the same way about you. What begins as a longing for your attention and affection could turn into loneliness, neglection and disappointment with time.
“They will always be around and so will I.”
It can get very lonely at the top when you get there.
Technology has given us ample opportunities to reach out to our loved ones even if we are thousands of miles apart. Squeezing in a moment or two to send a message or email just to let them know that your thoughts are with them can make a big difference.
Subtle physical affection each day can do wonders to relationships. Value those around you. Love them and let them know that too. Love is not a guessing game. It is an emotion that has to be expressed.
Call your mom or dad at least once a week. Spend some quality time with them. Let them know you care. They don’t have to be pushed to the back seat when more people come into your life. After all, they have spent a great deal of their lives bringing you up!
Likewise, kids need your love and attention. Home is the only place we all return to for love, warmth, security and affection. Children need to be reassured that you are there for them and that they can always count on you.
Deprivation of affection and love can leave even the most patient and understanding person feeling neglected, unappreciated and lonely. No one deserves to feel that way. Especially not those who love you.
You can spin around in the circle of life for as long as you want but no journey is worthwhile unless you are standing with someone you love, to share a smile or tear.
