thanks guys. since this morning I actually switched things up again, the big tank looks the same but i was waiting to identify this one in my upstairs tank , i was confused because it has a huge hump on the head, like my male and i didnt want a big scrap.... but as it turns out it is a female, i had no idea they grew there humps like that , anyways i have removed the smaller female from the big tank and threw in the big hump headed female.....
they have been doing the hey how are ya dance for a bit now and she is diging a humongous hole and they seem to have hit it off... so we shall see, i will post up some new pics of the new pair in a bit ...