My Uncle Brian

[Ricko]

I was up one night around 11pm-12pm approx the 1st(possibly on) Dec 07, my wife was asleep upstairs and my son was asleep on the couch near me. I was in the kitchen reading a fish book (on the bench infront of me on my avatar).

My uncle had a big prob with the booze and i was always extremely close to him as a young kid, and after giving up the gym have slowly started taking up the path of booze myself.
When my uncle died(approx a year before the above date) i have always asked him for a sign or something, and have spent many a night crying after his death.

This one night as i was reading my fish book, i saw something moving from the corner of my eye, i stood up and watched my wine glass moving across the bench, approx a foot. Starting to think to myself maybe i imagined it, a heavy thick cardboard bag on the bench acted like someone slapped it and instantly i broke with the strongest feeling of my uncle!!

I miss him and feel like he was giving me a warning for the booze, now i feel like i'm letting him down as i am just getting worse with it.

 

[bigspizz]

It sounds like you are ready to accept the fact that you need help....You may think people will respect you less, but I promise, they will respect you more.
My uncle died when I was 15. I am almost 29 and still to this day pray for him. I think about him every day. I let his memories motivate me, as apposed to hold me hostage. Life is not guaranteed, or easy...You are getting a strong whiff of that fact right now. Cherish your life, because it is the rarest thing that can be given to you,And once it is taken away, it is gone forever. I love just being alive enough, that it makes me make the best possible decisions I possibly can. Your words touched me, I hope mine will you. Good luck, and know you have 50,000+ friends right here ready to help/talk 24 hours a day..You are never alone here.

 

[navygirl76]

it sounds like he's warning you to get off the booze. im glad you see that you need help and that what youre doing isnt healthy-for the sake of those who love you please do get some help-there is nothing wrong with reaching out when you need it. i work with substance abuse patients, and it saddens me to see what could be potentially a good member of society and their family waste their life drinking and wasting away-only to disappoint themselves and those who love them. just a few days ago one of our lifelong alcoholics saw me in public, (he is in his late 50's) and he started bawling like a baby- saying that the alcohol is going to kill him. i feel he is right.. he says that he needs to learn to love himself. this man always relapses and comes to us to dry out every other month.. for years. for him, i dont think he will get better because he will never forgive himself and love himself.

please do something now-and not 30 years down the road wishing you had done something..

 

[dawn]

It saddens me to think people turn to drink, just because they think it'll ease the pain. It will only make life harder for them and their partners (I talking about the abusive drinkers!) They can get really offensive, and harm others physically! Yes, I do feel sorry for the guys who are trying desperately to get off the stuff! I hope and pray that those of you who are heavy drinkers, can get help! And we are always here if you need to talk!