tahnks, I am hoping he will relax a bit. He swims a lot with his fins like that and is s till a little freaked out i think. I have had him for almost 3 weeks and he has only really eaten a couple times that I have seen. I have been changing things in the tank a lot also though that might contribute. I added some more females and removed all my gravel. I heard the big males can be touchy sometimes.
They can be quite skittish. Just give him a little time and he should settle in. Mine still act funny when I am wearing red. I guess they don't think it looks good on me. LOL