Right guys, time to cheer me up…

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So we broke up two and a half months ago and it hurt. It’s been a distance thing but also she was absolutely convinced that I was unfaithful thanks to a close friend who tried to mess me up so he could get in.

I’ve just found out that she has a new boyfriend and oh my god do I feel bad or what!

I mean we went out for 2 and a half years but this is like a kick in the nuts. We talked for a while after the relationship was over and she said how she would hate to see me with another girl and I just shrugged it off, I took no notice, to be honest, it didn’t really register to me exactly what she meant or felt.

I feel really down.

Thing is, and maybe I’m being a little self indulgent by saying this, but she is good for me, I am good for her and I know that the dude she is with now is not good for her (I know of him, we kinda have mutual friends)

Do your thing guys, I’d prefer that you cheer me up but if the truth will set me free, let me have it.

Thanks…
 
lol princess is already trying to get you on the rebound! jk i luv u princess

Go browse a LFS to get your mind of it
 
I'm have been in a similar situation.. I think alot of us have. To be honest the only thing that made it better for me is time. You can go to a doctor and get depression meds if it helps, or try to go the natural route and let time get you over it like I did. It sucks when your other half moves on before you're ready. And if he's bad for her she will find out and be single again if she's smart. Nature will take it's course.
It's been about a year since I've been in that similar situation and to be honest mentally I'm still not over it fully/ready to date seriously but it's way better than it was right after the situation happened. You slowly learn, try to figure out what the other persons motive was/how they thought if it helps you deal. I would reccomend getting rid/putting away any reminders of your relationship that you deal with on a daily basis for now, and try to do positive things and move forward with life in general doing what you want to do even if you're putting relationships on the back burner. Might go out with friends to a bar/club to help you realize she's not the only fish you'd date.

The kicker is you always think of the good times, and not the bad that might have led to the breakup which makes it worse. And you only really remember how much you were hurt in the end not how much someone else may have been.

Might not cheer you up. But just some thoughts as again I and others I'm sure have been there. Things will get better. :)
 
thanks cichlaguapote and all you other guys...

its not as bad as to get some antidepressants or get ragingly drunk but its bad. dont get me wrong but its good to see others have experienced the same thing so i feel better that im not alone.

miss her big time tho and its so true that we only remember the good times and not the damn huge arguements and times you really are pissed.

my heart says call her but my mind says it'll be dammed if it makes that mistake. someone said let nature take it's course and that is what im gonna do!

to be honest, im also in the middle of nowhere in central africa and my laptop is giving me a lot of problems, and that is getting me down too.

all our frinds used to tell us that we had such a passionate relationship and it really was.

so secondly guys and gals, what happens with mutual friends? she just went to NY with a girl mate of mine, but she deleted me off facebook saying that she couldn't handle it. i didnt argue.

what can i read into her still being cool with a lot of my guy and girl friends?
what should i expect from mutual friends and what should i think about her still being cool with a lot of them.
 
always remember., there are alot of fishes in the ocean., wahahahaha., god that was so cheezy., :screwy:
 
cichlaguapote;1732725; said:
I'm have been in a similar situation.. I think alot of us have. To be honest the only thing that made it better for me is time. You can go to a doctor and get depression meds if it helps, or try to go the natural route and let time get you over it like I did. It sucks when your other half moves on before you're ready. And if he's bad for her she will find out and be single again if she's smart. Nature will take it's course.
It's been about a year since I've been in that similar situation and to be honest mentally I'm still not over it fully/ready to date seriously but it's way better than it was right after the situation happened. You slowly learn, try to figure out what the other persons motive was/how they thought if it helps you deal. I would reccomend getting rid/putting away any reminders of your relationship that you deal with on a daily basis for now, and try to do positive things and move forward with life in general doing what you want to do even if you're putting relationships on the back burner. Might go out with friends to a bar/club to help you realize she's not the only fish you'd date.

The kicker is you always think of the good times, and not the bad that might have led to the breakup which makes it worse. And you only really remember how much you were hurt in the end not how much someone else may have been.

Might not cheer you up. But just some thoughts as again I and others I'm sure have been there. Things will get better. :)
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i sense more trouble there....
 
DeLgAdO;1734262; said:
i sense more trouble there....
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Yes women are always trouble.. :D



More seriously..
Yes.. possibly.. might get caught up with another girl before he's ready for it..
 
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