should i be disappointed if...

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the girl i've been dating on and off (we're on this off stage at the moment... :() doesn't remember my birthday?
i know this sounds really immature, and as much as i don't really care to think about it that much, that fact remains it would be nice if people remembered, esp. someone like her.
one good friend of mine told me to just F it and move on if she forgot. i'm not as inclined to be that harsh in that sense, but i guess part of me hopes that she cares enough as a friend to remember?
i'm just asking a speculative question... another good buddy of mine told me to just play it off if nothing happens. i do like her a lot, but i guess it would be human to be disappointed if nothing happens?
thoughts?
 
Well, if your on the off stage right now, have you considered that she's just pretending to forget because she's mad at you or something? Girls do that.

But yeah, it sounds like you're more into her than she is into you.
 
Don't let the small ( :nono:bad word:nono:) bother you. If it's a big deal to you, then you should tell her " It's a big deal".

I see you like to take advice from your friends, Try this......Do what you feel is right.
 
Well in my eyes if you are haveing a on and off relationship and it seems to be more off, then there is a reson why you two should NOT be together. If she cared about you AT ALL she would have remembered, to me it sounds like she dont care about you all that much. I would find a new girl that does care.
 
Why are you off and on all the time? Is she the one that breaks it off and comes back?

If you are "off" right now are you still friends?

If you were "on" then it would make sense for her to get you a present or whatever for your birthday, but since you are "off" then IMO she doesn't have to acknowledge the occasion (unless you are still friends and hanging out, then a "Happy Birthday" or a card from her would be good.)

BTW, if she is the one doing the leaving and coming back then I think you should break it off permanently. Seems like she can't make up her mind and it's just not good to be in a (pseudo)realitionship like that.
 
actually if she forgets your bday that could be saying a lot. i forgot my ex's bday and then that year we broke up :D

but i suppose if you want to be serious with her then you should think about why she forgot your bday. if its a casual dating thing then maybe she's letting you know she isnt serious about you.
 
she remembered - sent me an email thing just now... heh..

I was just posing a hypothetical question, really. :(

i know what each of you are saying - i hear those same voices of reasons etc. that each of you are posing.

i know i should listen to myself more than what my friends tell me; i've had a few bad run-ins in the past in relationships so right now i'm not entirely trusting my sense of judgment. for what it's worth i'm trying to be a better person out of this; in retrospect i haven't been the best person in the past and i'm learning still as i go along and i guess sadly as it seems i am relying more on advice. that doesn't mean i don't have any thoughts on approaches of my own, but i want to take into consideration what others have to say about this matter.
 
yogurt_21;3257637; said:
for a little background what did you do for her birthday?
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we were only friends back then and i hadnt gotten to know her that well. that was a few months ago.

it's a bit complicated but back then a friend of mine (friend A) got turned down by her a few times and she was basically really pissed off at him cuz he wouldn't leave her alone. i told a few other friends it was her bday and we were going to do stuff for her without friend A because things were really awkward, but friend A decided it would be a great idea to organize a lunch together with friends. and that's what ended up happening. i didn't want to step in because 1- friend A was a friend and i didnt want to say anything although i think it was probably not the most sensitive thing for him to do, but... 2- i wasn't interested her at that time and we hadnt started dating

having said that, was i guilty in a way of not remembering? no, because i did. and she did as well on mine.
 
Shoot I don't know anyones Birthday. Besides my two ex's. August 16 and april 26, that's about it.
 
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