Telling my Coach that I'm Done

[topoftheline77]

I am wondering the best way to tell my wrestling coach that I'm not interested in wrestling this year.

Here's the story:
I just got done with a very long football season. We made it 4 games into the play offs and, even though it was one of the best times of my life, it took its toll on me. I am falling apart at the seems. So I went up to my wrestling coach with the intent to tell him that I didn't want to wrestle but I froze and just asked for this first week off (football was done on Saturday and wrestling started Monday). So he said that he doesn't want me just to not show up and make it look like I'll earn a spot and not do anything. He told me to come into the wrestling room on Monday and Tuesday to show the rest of the guys that I'm there. Well that's done but I would like some advice on telling him that I'm done.

Just because I know its going to come up here are the pros/cons of leaving

Pros
1.) My grades will improve
2.) I get too nervous before matches that its just not healthy
3.) I can be on my own watch and lift everyday
4.) My heart isn't in it anymore and its too hard of a sport to do if your heart isn't in it anymore
5.) I'm too beat up to do it and wrestling will beat me up even more
6.) I can't lose weight for football
7.) I don't want to spend every Saturday in a gym
8.) I'm only a Junior if I realize I miss it I always have next year

Cons
1.) I'm one of the leaders on the team
2.) The coach is a real nice guy and I'd feel like I'm letting him down
3.) There would be nobody else at my weight for the team
4.) It helps for football


Thanks
Mike

 

[ewurm]

Confrontation is not the enemy. He won't disrespect you for being honest. Don't beat around the bush. Walk in there, tell him the situation, that you won't be dissuaded. He'll be dissappointed, but will respect your decision.

 

[hamato_yoshii]

Make sure first that this is really what you want to do (or in this case dont want to do). I remember when I was in high school I had been playing occer my whole life, and I was on my high school team my freshman year, then I decided to quit, and one my reasons was because I thought I would just join up again if I felt like it. I never joined back up, and I regret it to this day.
Also are there any scholarship implications? If there are, your decision may be different.

 

[shookONES]

When my wrestling coach found out I didn't plan on wrestling my junior year, I found myself face to face with a 200lbs+ Olympic prospect wrestler at my doorstep at 6AM one Saturday. Needless to say, I wrestled. I'm so thankful I did because I really do love it.

 

[Ianab]

4.) My heart isn't in it anymore

Thats the bottom line.. it's a sport!

Unless it's a career move, then you are doing it because you enjoy it. If you aren't enjoying it, you have to ask?

Even if it's a career move.. if you dont enjoy it, it might not be the right one.
Participating in a SPORT you dont enjoy because someone else wants you too.. ummmm...

Ian

 

[rallysman]

If you don't want to do it, tell him " I don't want to wrestle anymore" He'll ask why, you'll explain and it'll all be over. I had to do it in HS, and when the coach said "I think you'll regret it" I just said "There's only one way to find out". No BSing, just tell him.

 

[johnptc]

If you don't want to do it, tell him " I don't want to wrestle anymore" He'll ask why, you'll explain and it'll all be over. I had to do it in HS, and when the coach said "I think you'll regret it" I just said "There's only one way to find out". No BSing, just tell him.

same story....i played football as a freshman....started on JV....etc

I felt it was to big a commitment for something i no longer loved....quit...coach made a few remarks....no regets......

 

[Rakie]

if he doesn't like it give him one of these.

 

[Chad55]

I quit track last year to work....I regret it so much. The coaches keep asking me if I am going to run again and vault but I honestly think that being out a year was too long. If you think there might atleast be a little bit of love in it still. I would wrestle this year. Give it half ass if you have to but I bet next year your going to want to go back full on. It seems like its always that way. And wrestling is one of those sports that you put so much into that you can never just up and leave it.

Chad

 

[Onion01]

Confrontation is not the enemy. He won't disrespect you for being honest. Don't beat around the bush. Walk in there, tell him the situation, that you won't be dissuaded. He'll be dissappointed, but will respect your decision.

sounds like the kind of advice my parents would give, and then I would get beaten up by the other kids and scorned by the coach.

But really, if he is a nice guy, he will understand. If he doesn't, follow rakies advice