Things Not To Do On A First Date
By: The Agency
Dated: 16:52 on 01/16/2006
Everyone has been on a horrible first date. Either you did something to turn off your date, or vice versa. Either way, you'd be hard pressed to find a person who has never had one really awful first date.
There are a few rules to follow on a first date that could really help you make it to a second one. Although they are geared towards women, trust me, plenty of women would be turned off by their date if he did these things, too.
First off, never talk about an ex. That should be a given, but surprisingly, it has been done many, many times. You are trying to make a good impression on a potential girl/boyfriend. So, the last thing you want to do is share so much emotional baggage that they think you aren't over your ex and truly ready to move on.
Don't talk too much. Anyone would be put off by someone who doesn't shut it long enough for their date to get a word in edgewise. Never dominate a conversation, always make sure you both are able to speak so you can each learn a little about each other.
Make sure you don't give the wrong impression with your body language. Body language is very important and your date will immediately pick up on it. Don't slump, don't look at the floor, and don't make your body so rigid that a tap on the shoulder could break you in half. Always make eye contact and keep your body relaxed to show you are interested.
Stay sober. One of the biggest ways to scare off a date is to get so drunk you fall off your seat and land in a puddle of your own alcohol induced vomit. You can't be yourself if you are totally drunk, so keep your drinking to a minimum.
Lastly, never, EVER, mention marriage. Who wouldn't me scared off by someone who is already copping the M-word on a first date? Even someone who would love to settle down one day, have kids, and also the house with the ideal white picket fence will freak if their date starts talking about marriage on a first day. So, steer the conversation away from it and you'll be fine.
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By: The Agency
Dated: 16:52 on 01/16/2006
Everyone has been on a horrible first date. Either you did something to turn off your date, or vice versa. Either way, you'd be hard pressed to find a person who has never had one really awful first date.
There are a few rules to follow on a first date that could really help you make it to a second one. Although they are geared towards women, trust me, plenty of women would be turned off by their date if he did these things, too.
First off, never talk about an ex. That should be a given, but surprisingly, it has been done many, many times. You are trying to make a good impression on a potential girl/boyfriend. So, the last thing you want to do is share so much emotional baggage that they think you aren't over your ex and truly ready to move on.
Don't talk too much. Anyone would be put off by someone who doesn't shut it long enough for their date to get a word in edgewise. Never dominate a conversation, always make sure you both are able to speak so you can each learn a little about each other.
Make sure you don't give the wrong impression with your body language. Body language is very important and your date will immediately pick up on it. Don't slump, don't look at the floor, and don't make your body so rigid that a tap on the shoulder could break you in half. Always make eye contact and keep your body relaxed to show you are interested.
Stay sober. One of the biggest ways to scare off a date is to get so drunk you fall off your seat and land in a puddle of your own alcohol induced vomit. You can't be yourself if you are totally drunk, so keep your drinking to a minimum.
Lastly, never, EVER, mention marriage. Who wouldn't me scared off by someone who is already copping the M-word on a first date? Even someone who would love to settle down one day, have kids, and also the house with the ideal white picket fence will freak if their date starts talking about marriage on a first day. So, steer the conversation away from it and you'll be fine.
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