I don't consider Parachromis "mean".
They are simply predators, and each require a very large territory.
To me for large fish, its all about tank size, and to house them in a community situation a couple hundred gallons is not even close to meeting their actual needs.
If you watch any of Mels large cichlid youtube videos, most often his Parachromis and other large cichlids seem quite docile.
But most of his tanks are 300 gallon, and move up into the 500 and 1000 gallon range for large adults.
One other thing I've found is, certain riverine and rheophillic species like those of the genus Tomocicha, Theraps and Maskaheros come from very strong constant, heavily moving walls of water, so in nature they are constantly working against a moving wall.
Without the regular use of that energy they have evolved to deal with, it has to go somewhere, and often ends up turning into aggression if not used up.
If these rheophilic species are given the constant current, and a large enough tank, the aggression may be minimal.
Things like aerators, HOB filters, or canisters, do not come close to providing this type water movement.
Even for the small Andinoacara species (largest 7") I am keeping at the moment, I'm providing a 1500 GPH pump cycling thru the sump, and have added a another powerhead type pump to the tank, to push a linear wall current of water (as close as I can) to mimic the moving current of the river they were caught in