What Would You Do? (Relationship)

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DMasker

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Even though i've only been here for a short while I really like you fellow MFKers, so I trust you guys for brutal honesty more then my friends.

So here is my conundrum. I've been seeing this girl for about 9 months and I was really happy with her. Now shes not sure about anything, told me she likes my friend, and is always texting her other guy friend. Like its hard to even get her attention sometimes because of her guy friend shes been texting.

She hates the time I put into maintaining my fish (which is only like an hour a day) and her telling me her opinion is saying "well that's just stupid."

I did something I would never normally do and went through her text messages to her guy friend and found out he calls her "babe" and they have been having midnight phone conversations after I leave her house.

I always give her the benefit of the doubt and try to accommodate her because I know her last relationship was a really bad experience for her.

Right now we are technically taking a break and I told her how I felt about her and where I stood, that I was willing to work things out if she was. She is still undecided.

So my question to anyone who wants to throw in their two cents is what would you do in my situation? Break it off permanently? Tell her im done with her until she makes a choice and stop talking to her till she does? Wait for her to make up her mind? Or something else?

This was my first relationship in a while and i've never been on the end that was considering ending it.
 
Fish keeping aside; You need to stand you ground for who you are as a person. If she is doing things that are disrespectful in your eyes and you address those things to no conclusion, maybe it is time to move on. Do not change who you are, and or what you really want out of a relationship for someone who might not be willing to do the same. Changing yourself is not the problem, it is being in a relationship with someone that EXPECTS you to change without being willing to do so themselves. Ultimately the decision is yours, but this is my advice from similar past experiences.
 
dmopar74;4273513; said:
drop her like a brick.

That made me laugh. I like that brutal honesty! That is the side I am leaning towards.
 
kevinfleming21;4273533; said:
how old are you btw man?

20, which is another reason why I will probably end it. I am far too young to be dealing with that crap.
 
cut her off, done deal.

her always talking to another guy is bad news. nothing good will come of it and it will only get worse. once a girl 'cheats' on you emotionally (not physically/sexually) with another guy, it's over, youve lost her. you might as well drop her off at the next guy's house.

love. lose. forget. move on. repeat - until you find a keeper.
 
jcardona1;4273545; said:
love. lose. forget. move on. repeat - until you find a keeper.

I like that. :headbang2
 
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