Sadness, disappoinment and anger are emotions that need as much attention as happiness does. You have to keep an eye on them and play your cards accordingly. You cannot appear happy on the outside and be full of remorse or frustration on the inside. Prentending to feel what you dont will not get you ahead. It will harm you, psychologically and physically.
It is ok to feel sad or angry. A few weeks ago, I discovered that a very close friend of mine was betraying me each day for almost 2 years by spreading awful rumors about me to practically everyone we knew. That appalled me beyond belief and I was very hurt and upset. She had misused my trust in the most disgusting manner possible. To make things worse, when she realized that I had found out about it, she tried every possible way to annoy me and it still happens every now and then (she also happens to be a neighbor).
I could have pretended to bury the negative emotions under the rug and go on with life as if nothing ever happened but that would be denying the truth. Staying positive also means that you should know how to deal with negative circumstances.
I knew I was terribly hurt and disappointed and could feel the intense negative vibrations that were emanating from her but I also made sure that I did not reflect her emotion. The vibrations she was sending will not affect me if I enveloped myself with positive energy. I was determined to feel positive by focusing more on the positive aspects of my life. I had to fight the negativity with loads of positivity. I was not going to allow anyone to create a negative path towards me.
How would I do that? Well, you should be able to relate to this if you have been visiting this blog often. I played more, gave thanks to all I have more often and removed the clutter in my life.
This process healed me from within and soon, the negative energy in the atmosphere began to diminish. Emotions need to be dealt with and not buried.
I could have confronted her and expressed my anger but that would not have yielded any positive results. One needs to think and rethink before responding to any situation. It is better to be safe than sorry, in most circumstances. Anger is just a reflex in humans that is usually unneccessary.
Sadness, on the other hand, is not a reflex. It is a necessity. Prolonged denial of sadness can lead to many psychological and physicaly problems. In extremely stressful situations, such as in the event of the death of a loved one, one cannot remain composed and calm. These are natural occurences that deserve to be treated with the emotions that are rightfully created for them. I would be insane if I claim that I would never cry in such a situation. That would classify me as a mentally unstable individual and not an optimist.
So, it is ok to cry. Learn to define the differences between unnecessary and necessary situations. We tend to confuse ourselves at times and regret it later.
Cry when you must but it should take you to the next level in the healing process. Cry because you are hurt and not because you have lost hope. Destructive thoughts, when crying will lead you to more pain and frustration. Crying is an emotion that heals. When those tears dry up, allow yourself to heal. Get up and get going!
I was sad that I lost a friend but I have not lost hope. I know that I will always find better friends who will value my thoughts and feelings. In the end .life goes on and I am feeling absolutely perfect again!
It is ok to feel sad or angry. A few weeks ago, I discovered that a very close friend of mine was betraying me each day for almost 2 years by spreading awful rumors about me to practically everyone we knew. That appalled me beyond belief and I was very hurt and upset. She had misused my trust in the most disgusting manner possible. To make things worse, when she realized that I had found out about it, she tried every possible way to annoy me and it still happens every now and then (she also happens to be a neighbor).
I could have pretended to bury the negative emotions under the rug and go on with life as if nothing ever happened but that would be denying the truth. Staying positive also means that you should know how to deal with negative circumstances.
I knew I was terribly hurt and disappointed and could feel the intense negative vibrations that were emanating from her but I also made sure that I did not reflect her emotion. The vibrations she was sending will not affect me if I enveloped myself with positive energy. I was determined to feel positive by focusing more on the positive aspects of my life. I had to fight the negativity with loads of positivity. I was not going to allow anyone to create a negative path towards me.
How would I do that? Well, you should be able to relate to this if you have been visiting this blog often. I played more, gave thanks to all I have more often and removed the clutter in my life.
This process healed me from within and soon, the negative energy in the atmosphere began to diminish. Emotions need to be dealt with and not buried.
I could have confronted her and expressed my anger but that would not have yielded any positive results. One needs to think and rethink before responding to any situation. It is better to be safe than sorry, in most circumstances. Anger is just a reflex in humans that is usually unneccessary.
Sadness, on the other hand, is not a reflex. It is a necessity. Prolonged denial of sadness can lead to many psychological and physicaly problems. In extremely stressful situations, such as in the event of the death of a loved one, one cannot remain composed and calm. These are natural occurences that deserve to be treated with the emotions that are rightfully created for them. I would be insane if I claim that I would never cry in such a situation. That would classify me as a mentally unstable individual and not an optimist.
So, it is ok to cry. Learn to define the differences between unnecessary and necessary situations. We tend to confuse ourselves at times and regret it later.
Cry when you must but it should take you to the next level in the healing process. Cry because you are hurt and not because you have lost hope. Destructive thoughts, when crying will lead you to more pain and frustration. Crying is an emotion that heals. When those tears dry up, allow yourself to heal. Get up and get going!
I was sad that I lost a friend but I have not lost hope. I know that I will always find better friends who will value my thoughts and feelings. In the end .life goes on and I am feeling absolutely perfect again!
Also, I would tell off your friend and ignore her if I were you. Don't give her the satisfaction of her seeing you upset.
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