how do you tell it's a female. It's only 2.5-3 inches long (can't exactly get a good measurement of it).
Also, what should I be feeding it? I've tried flakes (figured it wouldn't eat them and was right), pellets (doesn't even look at them), and chopped night crawlers (looks at them but never goes for them). Should I try frozen bloodworms, live blackworms, and guppies?