We are thinking along the same lines. I'm a novice at this aquarium stuff, but I'm thinking about a trashcan for a refugium and the skimmer afterword (in simplicity). Everyone seems to always put the skimmer first than the refugium though. I'm going with a Bean drain system from the main tank. I've put 5 holes in the tank. 3 (2" pipe) on the top side, 1 (1.5" pipe) on the other side on the bottom for the inflow from the sump pump, and 1 (1.5") in the corner for a drain. The general rule of thumb seams to be move the water 5-10 times through the tank in a hour. So, your looking at something like 3,000 GPH sump pump, and extra height and turns in the pipe will significantly reduce the flow rate.