Advice on Depression and fish keeping.

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I got my water sprite today. No insulation, no heat pack, they were ice cold and the tips were rotting.
Hello; Over the years I have ordered live animals or plants at times. Usually wingless fruit flies (drosophila) and a few times plants. Usually for personal use but sometimes for classroom use. My suggestion is to step back from an idea by pausing to consider all of the conditions, not just personal conditions. The shipping companies will (for good or for bad) ship live things during a blizzard. Don't ask me why. I guess a good enough percentage of packages make it.
I did not order during the very cold months. Tried to order during traditional mild months.

Life's ills do not always just happen to us. We do not have overall control, but we do have some input. The world craps on us all to be sure. We cannot avoid all of it, maybe just enough to make things bearable.

Had a close friend. He decided to add a room to his house. He did construction work so had the skills to prepare a foundation. When I stopped by he already had some block laid. I looked over the work and asked if he was not planning to attach the new room to the house. At first he did not understand my question. He had focused too much on the specific work and had not looked at the surroundings. He had set the new footer around a foot or so higher than the level of the existing house.
The new footer was level and the few cinder blocks in place were nice. My friend was not careful about planning things. He also went into serious depression bouts when things went wrong. Another time I helped him fix his car. He was doing some work on the engine and had laid an old-style light on the brake fluid reservoir and went for a break. The incandescent bulb melted the top of the brake reservoir. So, I helped with fixing that.

There is an old saying I may or may not have made up. Most likely picked up from someone else. That being never pick up something heavy before you have a known place to set it down. Especially for glass aquariums. Can be modified to other things.

Good luck.
 
Id say rehome the Oscars. Sitting there looking at your fish with HITH is probably bringing you stress and making you feel inadequate as a fish keeper. IDK how in love with them you are but start anew. Re-scape the whole tank and go into a completely new direction with it. That's what excited you about fishkeeping to begin with. It will give you a new project to focus on and fulfillment. Also weekly 90% water changes isn't sustainable. That's too much work. Try designing something with a healthy nitrogen cycle like a planted tank. Also go touch grass. We're meant to be living outside enjoying the beauty of this world. Not the paint on your living room wall or the TV. If you like aquariums you probably enjoy natural waterways. Go swim in the creek. Read a book by the river. While you're there you can find things to add to your aquarium.
 
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