Guess I throw in some more
In middle school I made 3 friends and we stuck together for a long time. We were the group of kids everyone teased. We had a some friends outside the group and all 3 of us were very alike and very un-alike. We stuck together and always had eachother. We dressed like your average middleschool kid and that was that. Well we made it through middle school and went on to high school.
In highschool we all had our own tastes, I was either in huge baggy pants and band shirts or I was in surfer clothes. I had weird hair colors and got kciked out of summer school for it. All of my friends parents knew this also. Friend 1 dressed in normal jeans and band shirts or just color shirts. Friend 2 dressed like me or like a girl, whatever she felt like. Friend 3 dressed all girlyish. Eventually friend 4 came into the picture but left quickly. I am sure to everyone else we were a strange group of friends but we were able to look past that.
One day friend 1 and I walk into a math class we have together. Well someone in a class before carved a drawing into the desk of a person and dead dog (it was very disgusting) and we had pointed it out. Well the math teacher walked over and decided he would blame my friend for it. Well my friend and I spent 2 hours in the office with the school officer and the disicpline office people. We kept telling them we didnt do it and so on. Well they kept my friend and let me go. My mom worked at the school so by the time I got out and saw her, she had already heard about it. She told me "I dont like you hanging out with her, she is a bad influence". This shocked me as I knew we didnt do anything. Well I stayed her friend and my mom kept telling me not to hangout with her. Eventually my mom said she does drugs, which she never did. On the otherside her mom thought I was a bad influence and that our walks to 7 eleven for ice creame (which is what it was) were walks for drugs, and I was getting her daughter into them, I found that hilarious b/c I never did drugs or smoked. Its amazing how someone can misjudge you. Well my mom always liked friend number 2 and 3 who either dressed like me or girly and they were the ones who got introuble and did things they shouldnt have. Well I stuck beside my friends. Eventually myself and friends number 1 and 2 started to distance ourselves from friend number 3 (friend 2 and 3 are cousins). Well eventually friend 1 and I grew apart because we had different intrests and just found it hard to hangout because we liked doing different things and eventually walked our own paths. She no longer talks to any of us, but it was not a bad departure - just a different walk of life. Friend number 3 was cut off from all of us and she is a crazy party person now. Friend number 4 became friends with all of us but quickly got cut out after we found out she was a druggie, lair and stealer. Friend number 4 stole money from me and hung out with bad people I did not like. Friend number 2 and I are still bestfriends, we both walk different paths of life- but those paths always seem to cross eachother. We both have blossomed into beautiful people on the inside and have very different lives but are still able to stick together and we always have eachothers backs.
The point in my typing all that is this:
You can't judge or assume something about someone unless you are positive it's true. NEVER judge a book by its cover. Sometimes the best thing you can do is try to show the real person to your parents. I had a rough time trying to get my mom to understand that my friends were not bad people even if they are weird. I was eventually able to show my mom I knew how to pick my friends. Friend number 4 was a great example she did bad things and my mom never knew it and I eventually stopped talking to her because of it, well my mom asked my why and I told her. Those are not the type of people I like to surround my self around. Your mom is just looking out for you, just like my mom was looking out for me. Sometimes you just have to talk to your parents and understand where they are coming from. Sometimes they are right and sometimes they are wrong. I always walked my own path I did what I thought was right and I am glad I did, it made me see more and become a stronger person. I knew what type of people I wanted to be around and what type of people would bring me down and I would cut those people out. Just keep an eye on your friend if he becomes the type of person you dont want to be around, then cut him loose. If he becomes someone great who helps you as much as you help him then keep him around. The best thing you can do is talk to your mom and walk your own path. You can only choose where you want to go and who you want to be around, just never let anyone hold you back.
Now I hangout with people from all over the place, people who have great goals in life. People who have all kinds of different experiences in life and many intresting stories. People who are opening my eyes, helping me find new things to try and new goals to go after. People I can call my friends, but people I can also look up to.
