meiling, if u wanna work on shipping, maybe i can help you. i've been looking for a 3rd aro to add to my 400gal and yours is gorgeous. we've spoke a few times so u kno im an honest guy, and i care for my fish more then i care for myself. i really wish u could jus keep him. maybe you could get him on pellets and use an auto feeder system and jus dedicate time to refil it and wc once every 2 weeks while your doing what u need to. not giving a fish attention 24/7 isn't being mean to it, all they require is good temp water, food, and good water quality. double think about ur choice, i'd hate to see it go then you second guess your decision. let me know what you wanna do.