this is my tip for u it almost worked for me but my dumb female keep on swiming away everytime my male wrap around her but do this put ur female in a cup i use pet store cup and put the female in there put her in the tank as the male and leave it for one day it should do the trick but if it doesnt then try next time or take out the female when ever u gonna mate ur male because your male gonna keep on flaring and wont eat well that is wat happen to mine