i would suggest getting a small group and letting them pair as this would allow them to choose themselves and for the strongest bond but like nc_nutcase said this would allow possiblity for sibling to pair so i would try to get them from different stores, go to one store and look for the best looking ones that have no blue on the lower half of their gill plate, and then go to other store and look for ones with blue all over their gill plate, usually at the big chain stores like petco and stuff they are already big enough to sex (maybe not 100% but still good enough to have fair chance of getting males and females that you want) and getting a group also allows you to see which ones turn out the most colorful and outgoing