there's no worry about breaking the bond. when my pair spawns i take out the one that gets kicked out of the territory. one time i took out my female as the male was the aggressor, she was placed in a tank with mostly full grown cons and some other cichlids. a month passed and i haven't put her back with the male and she spawned with another con. fast forward to now i put her back with her original mate and they spawned together again.