I have read most of CB's threads also, a few things come to mind.
First of all, my sincere condolences to you for what you are going through mate, you are more a man than I would be thats for sure!
Second, I, like CB, have asked some stupid questions, that i know are stupid but need to be asked none the less to confirm an answer so i don't make mistakes. I can categorically say that know one here was born knowing everything were they? Everybody here was a Newb at some stage at fish keeping, so think back to your first stupid question before you ridicule someone just because you have been in the hobby a little longer.
My 2 cent's worth but all that being said this is probably one of the most welcoming sites i have been involved with, Well done.
Sincere Regards and deepest sympathy's,
Brett, your mate down under.