Gr8KarmaSF;511258; said:
sorry...lifes unpredictable - sometimes nice sometimes not so nice
for real.
It starts out with three things:
1. I'm engaged and my fiancee and I are going to be married in June
2. I just started my second year of architecture school at Tulane
3. My fiancee transferred from her school in South Carolina (where we're from) to Loyola to be closer to me
Okay. That's all fine and good, right? Well, it turns out the music performance program at Loyola is highly overrated and my fiancee is miserable there because she's stuck in performance because of her scholarship. She was sick of doing performance at the first school but she at least liked the program and she loved her cello teacher.
The other night, she asked me how sure I was about architecture. Now, this is something I've wanted to do since I was a freshman in high school. So I consider myself pretty lucky to be in the Tulane School of Architecture, especially now that it's the place to be for architecture students (being in New Orleans and all).
She started talking about money and how poor we'll be if we stay in New Orleans because Tulane and Loyola are really expensive schools, and it's a lot even with our scholarships. She said that if I wasn't 100% absolutely sure that I had to graduate with a degree in architecture from Tulane, she didn't think it was worth all the debt, and that being that much in debt is no way to start out a good marriage. Not being one to enjoy forcing my loved ones to be miserable for four years, I agreed to go back to South Carolina with her so that we could go to Clemson and possibly both major in audio engineering. I'd told her on several occasions that I was thinking about how much I'd enjoy other careers, like audio engineering or herpetology or something. And I guess all the times I was really frustrated with architecture didn't help her to think it was really what I want to do.
Now it looks like we're both withdrawing and going home by the end of the week. I've lost my motivation to do anything at all.
I really really *really* hope this is the right thing to do.