how to confront people in a medium group in high school??

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lix.ma14 said:
does it work?? So i go up to a talking crowd and go in front of a person and say, "Hi may name is......" and put my hand out for them to shake??? LOLs
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I never tried it when I was in high school, but now that I'm in college it does help lol.

I also read your other thread and people are suggesting you don't mention that you're in the fish hobby? LOL. I never mentioned it because it was my business, but when I invited some people over to my house they were stoked that I did. Even got one of them to start keeping fish again.
 
College years and being 14 years old are completely different. If he walks up to a group of kids and tries the handshake thing, the other kid could diss him really bad and give him an instant repuation of being a geek to everyone standing there. As insecure as he comes across, that could scar him for life. I don't think he should force the issue. Just make friends naturally....it seems so easy to do when you're a kid.
 
Do not do the hand shake thing. You will end up a social leper, in high school they will just laugh at you. Just ask your friend "what you doing for lunch today?" or "what you up to at lunch time?". If he is truely your friend he should know what you want and should then ask if you want to come along.

Nothing too direct but direct enough he knows what you want. Either that or explain to him when it is just the two of you out of school that you don't know many people and wondered if it was ok to hang with him at school. While some things in high school are completely out, like shaking hands, you are also a little more mature at 14 and he should understand your position.


However, I do know that some things are the same the world over. DO NOT TRY AND DO HAND SHAKING, it is an adult thing. Also, don't mention the hobby until you are well settled or it comes up in passing, leave your obsession at home. Mention the fish as pets rather than a hobby, this is easier for other people to understand why you do it for some reason. I don't know why that distinction makes a difference but it seems to.
 
yea I say skip the hand shake thing, (unless someone else initiates it) I remember being in a similar situation my early HS years. I was too proud, (scared is probably a better word) to walk up to a group. So I submerged myself into something cool I liked, (cars) Viola! Before I knew it, I was having more fun than I thought I could have. The only regret I have is being so slow with the ladies, I really blew it there, I STILL kick myself for being such a loser in that dept, aaaahhh the possibilities..
 
Since when was hand shaking an "Adult" thing? Guess Houston is the only city where its "normal" to shake hands and introduce yourself. Did it in high school and so did many other people.
 
Dress in death metal band attire, spike your hair, carry a guitar around with you at all times and wear makeup! Don't forget the cigg too!
 
I would go with the death metal super popular. Be yourself if they dont like who you are then screw them. The I dont care attitude usaully works too.
 
knifegill said:
You don't need words. Just a hackey sack.
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LOOL, hackey sacks are somehow banned in my school. also a big preoblem i have is that every one goes to the mall during break. i have pretty much no one to go with. All my friends left before me and I don't have a cell phone. I don't want to go by my self and act like a loner!
 
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