I am trapped in a hum-hole.

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pelleeklund

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Recently I have been slugging through my workdays unmotivated and dying for the weekend. I know.... me and everyone else, right? Well I got to thinking about the possibility of being not so much happy, but fulfilled by my job. Personally, I graduated from Tyler School of Art with a BFA in Fine Arts/Painting and a head full of optimism about finding a job where my creativity and art skills could help me be a part of something special. Didn't quite pan out the way I had planned professionally, but it's actually been great personally. I have an awesome wife and three beautiful kids, a modest house and the kind of personal satisfaction most people would kill for. It's just those 8 hours a day that are sucking the life out of me. I could actually deal with the sacrifice of my professional life if I were making decent money for my time, but this month to month struggle has got me thinking it may be time to fly. (By the way I am a trade painter, and it's not because I love the irony.)

My question is first, does anyone out there really enjoy their work? I was raised very blue collar so the concept of enjoying your work is still very foreign to me. I am the first in my family to go to college though, so I always thought it would make my folks really proud if I could break the cycle of hard labor and be the first to really enjoy the American dream. You know, do what I want to do and get paid well enough to live comfortably. By the way, the idea of talking about this aloud is even hard. I live around a lot of tough nuts that don't appreciate my eclectic free thinking about employment.

Secondly, does anyone out there have a job that has to do with conceptualizing/creativity or art in general? I never had a chance to take advantage of my schools resources for job placement because I was very involved with finding a job and apartment for my daughter and wife. (She was born during my senior year.) I would love to hear what's involved because as sad as it sounds I don't know what I want to be. I'm game for outside the box ideas to, I just want to use my brain and creativity when I am at work.

Third, Is this unrealistic or selfish? Like I said, I'm a happy guy. I may have no money but I do have a lot of love and I'll make that trade any day. Is it too much to ask to have both though? I don't want a ton of money, just enough to fix the car when it breaks and start saving for the kids college. It's really more about personal satisfaction with my profession that I would be after. A couple extra bucks than I make now would do fine.

Please feel free to shoot off anything you would like in response to this. Explain your job to me, tell me anything. Like I said I can't go around talking to my friends about this because they always make me feel like I think I'm special for even considering anything bigger. We are a hard people over here and we keep our dreams to ourselves. I think any dialogue on the subject could be very therapeutic for me. Either way I feel like I am at the threshold of a big change and I would love a chance to feel less awkward about it. I love informed decisions. For good or ill, thanks for letting me clear my brain out.
 
Nothing wrong with looking for a better job. Just do not leave this one until you find something you like better. Nothing wrong with wanting better, but sometimes it is more about making what you do enjoyable. Everyone can hate what they do. I find it is best to look at the positive side of work, and stay way from people who complain about how much work sucks. These people will make work worse.
 
Good advice buddy. We definitely make the best of our job daily. When time permits or when stress is high we like to hide in closets of the empty apartments the other guys are working in and scare them to death by jumping out barking like dogs at them. It's surprisingly rewarding, we filmed a lot and made a nice video for the boys. We even rate their defensive reactions and named them all. The heisman, the face shake etc....The magics gone now though, my technique is failing. When that stops being fun, you know somethings wrong. Maybe that's part of the problem, maybe I am ready for something more. Like I said we have fun and we also work hard, I just feel like i'm trapped. I think I want things to be more focused. Wow, growing up sucks, hiding in a closet having an existential crisis and waiting to scare your co-workers. Basically this was a nice job to help me to transistion into the work world, but now I feel like I would like to be a part of something more substantial. The video was great though, I regret nothing, my surprise banshee scream has melted peoples faces.
 
i had a real long story typed out but i deleted cuz its this simple lol.
if u keep doing what u have always done, u will keep getting what u have always gotten.
always set goals bro, short term and long term. that way u always have something to look forward to and when u get there u apperciate it alot more.
keep looking for that dream job, the day u stop will be the day u pass up a great opportunity.
 
you should just quit and start a hustle game. get others to chip in and start a large scale city wide hustle. if anyone you see anyone that isnt part of the crew. get your crew to take care of them. you will become very powerful in your city
 
Klutch I agree, I got to keep from letting the job thing get me stagnant. I have a tough time with getting my long term goals straight though. If I knew what I wanted to ultimately do I would go after it hard and I think I could do it. More or less my problem is how to apply my unique set of skills with a job that would be reliable for my family. Art sucks like that. There is a lot of feast or famine style work to be had, I would hate to think I put the family in a bad spot chasing windmills. If I could find a steady job doing almost anything creatively I would probably take it without thinking. Rough field for a family man though. This is sort of a spitball thread for me, inspiration could come from the strangest of places. Maybe networking with some of the minds of MFK can point me in a better direction. I have had a hell of a time these past few weeks running this idea through my head with all of the other stuff I have going on. Sometimes you have to vomit it all out. And Beex215, you live downtown, you want to join my hustle game? I'm going to sell jarred farts. The hard jarred farts will be our crews name.
 
im down for it. is it already in jars. i dont like collecting the farts. its not fun and smells. we can sell our own on the mfk market place. see if it sells here first before we commit huge on this. you have good credit right?
 
Your job doesnt define you, it's what you do not who you are. My grandpa always told me a job is work...it is to support your family not enjoyment. If you do find something you love, enjoy it in your spare time or better yet, share it with your family. Teach your children how to paint. That will pay back ten fold.

I don't like my job either. I work in the finance dept and though I am good at it I don't enjoy it. I know the fulfillment you are talking about though as in my past job I had more responsibility and now I am just a technician. I try to focus on the positives as I am definately not as stressed as I use to be and have a lot more time to spend with my family.

Im not saying don't strive for more or try for something better. Its just the "something better" isnt always as great as it seems when you get it. Good luck to you in all your future endeavors!!!
 
this is what i don't understand, people who drop money on college and don't have a long term plan centered around their education. why do people do that?!?!?!
 
Your job doesnt define you, it's what you do not who you are. My grandpa always told me a job is work...it is to support your family not enjoyment. If you do find something you love, enjoy it in your spare time or better yet, share it with your family. Teach your children how to paint. That will pay back ten fold.

I don't like my job either. I work in the finance dept and though I am good at it I don't enjoy it. I know the fulfillment you are talking about though as in my past job I had more responsibility and now I am just a technician. I try to focus on the positives as I am definately not as stressed as I use to be and have a lot more time to spend with my family.

Im not saying don't strive for more or try for something better. Its just the "something better" isnt always as great as it seems when you get it. Good luck to you in all your future endeavors!!!

I agree.

When I was younger, I had it set in my mind that I wasn't going to be a slave to the man. I was only going to work a job doing something I loved.

Well, I have done all three of my "dream jobs" and they all sucked after a while. It was fun at first, but when something you enjoy doing becomes something you are required to do all day - every day to pay your bills, it's not so fun anymore.

Now, I enjoy the job have now, but it still sucks having to be at work for 50+ hrs out of my week.
 
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