Is your spouse or S.O. down with your hobby??
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I'll join in. My husband is tolerant of it - as long as it isn't causing any problems. If, for example, a power filter starts leaking (had an aquaclear crack one time), he gets this annoyed look on his face and if the problem isn't taken care of quickly, he starts to get pissed.
BUT - he did just pay for 4 hoplarchus psittacus from Rapps for my birthday. And helped me with a water change for the first time (I'm pregnant so they're getting difficult). So I guess he's not too bad.
BUT - he did just pay for 4 hoplarchus psittacus from Rapps for my birthday. And helped me with a water change for the first time (I'm pregnant so they're getting difficult). So I guess he's not too bad.
I think my boyfriend is somewhat annoyed by the hobby. He might not understand the draw to it. I can talk about it with him to an extent but when I start getting into too much detail or he gets bored, I notice his eyes glaze over. Although I'll admit he humors me and goes to the LFS with me. He's even told me I should get specific fish (i.e. spotted gar, blue lobsters, etc). He knows it's important to me and supports me on my decisions but doesn't exactly want any for himself. He KNOWS there mostly just aquarium stuff on my Christmas list this year and will have to buy me something for it! That's right, baby, feed the addiction! 
My wife is tough to figure out. When I got my 120g she said 'that's it, there's your big tank, your done.' After months of wearing her down with 'but honey the fish really would do better with...' I mentioned that I found my dream tank on craigslist a 210g. Her response 'go ahead we have the money in savings'. So it looks like I am picking up a new tank this weekend and not sure where it goes from here, defiantly over 300g next time!
my girlfriend is pretty supportive, im going to check out a 75 gallon tomorrow and she basically says as long as it keeps me happy and i dont completely make myself broke over it it's fine. she has chosen a few of my fish, the beta is hers, she paid for his little tank and everything, powder blue dwarf gourami in the 10 gallon is hers and the firemouth was also her idea.
Im single. But if i ever met someone he would have to accept my tanks and all my animals. It's a lot but that's just part of me.
My wife is up & down with it. I never had fish before she got me into them, she kept a 10gal in college for a bit. She didn't really know anything about keeping fish though, she just had pretty good luck with minimal maintenance on that 10gal, and it was only around for a few semesters.
So she got me into it, we had a huge disaster (failure) on the 20gal we set up, and I took off from there. The fish genocide spurred me to do better research the second time around and get things right. And its around that time that she started getting annoyed with me. I started learning quite a bit about it and she wasn't really keeping up. I think she just wanted it to be as easy as it was for her in college, so when I started dealing with all the regular maintenance stuff like water changes, dechlorinator, test kits...just basic stuff; and then things like what fish we can ACTUALLY keep in the tank we have etc etc. She didn't really want to deal with all that.
Now we have a 65 a 55 & a 20g, shes 'banned' me from getting any more tanks until we get a house (and she's starting to hold babies against me too
) but I'm ok with that so I'm not arguing it. She does get to her wits end sometimes when I start talking about what I want to do with the filtration & the lights & all that jazz, but for the most part she listens & she's getting a lot better about trying to learn.
At this point I think she's just letting me rock these 3 tanks however I see fit but putting a clamp on the budget when I get to going overboard. Once we can afford it though I'm either getting a larger tank for some of my FW and re-purposing the 65 or 55 for SW, or just getting a new tank for SW. I'm hoping to let her handle that since its what she REALLY wants out of all this fish business. We'll see how it goes.
So overall, she's ok with it, she just gets REALLY annoyed sometimes with how deep I'll dig into a rabbit hole...that goes for all of my hobbies & interests though, so its no surprise.
So she got me into it, we had a huge disaster (failure) on the 20gal we set up, and I took off from there. The fish genocide spurred me to do better research the second time around and get things right. And its around that time that she started getting annoyed with me. I started learning quite a bit about it and she wasn't really keeping up. I think she just wanted it to be as easy as it was for her in college, so when I started dealing with all the regular maintenance stuff like water changes, dechlorinator, test kits...just basic stuff; and then things like what fish we can ACTUALLY keep in the tank we have etc etc. She didn't really want to deal with all that.
Now we have a 65 a 55 & a 20g, shes 'banned' me from getting any more tanks until we get a house (and she's starting to hold babies against me too
) but I'm ok with that so I'm not arguing it. She does get to her wits end sometimes when I start talking about what I want to do with the filtration & the lights & all that jazz, but for the most part she listens & she's getting a lot better about trying to learn.At this point I think she's just letting me rock these 3 tanks however I see fit but putting a clamp on the budget when I get to going overboard. Once we can afford it though I'm either getting a larger tank for some of my FW and re-purposing the 65 or 55 for SW, or just getting a new tank for SW. I'm hoping to let her handle that since its what she REALLY wants out of all this fish business. We'll see how it goes.
So overall, she's ok with it, she just gets REALLY annoyed sometimes with how deep I'll dig into a rabbit hole...that goes for all of my hobbies & interests though, so its no surprise.
