Males grow to 8-10" and females 6-7", depending on how old they are.
Don't house them with small fish, as the small fish are likely to be eaten, especially when the JDs are juveniles.
Dunno how many you got, but you can anticipate that they will start killing each other off as they grow and mature, until only one male and a female or two are left, if you keep them all in the same tank.
Minimum tank size is 55g for a bonded pair of adult JDs or a single male.
They can be sexed, growth rate differentiation aside, by physical characteristics (body color and irridescent speckling pattern): the male fish is the larger specimen in both pics.