Yea my male is a little shy.....only 6" or so. He is coming out more and more and seems to be less scared when I am around. Anymore he will just stay where he is at in the tank an watch me when I first come in the room. After a few min. he starts going about his business digging, head shaking and doing dry runs as if he is fertilizing eggs. Once the lights go out in the room but his tank lights stay on he starts flying around the tank flaring at his reflection. I always wondered how long a shy one will stay shy...it's cool your not getting rid of him. I figured sooner or latter they will come out of the shyness....I have a hard time believing there are 16+ inch shy dovii.