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Don't have kids, being a young teen myself. My advice is to keep yourself busy, take up hobbies because they really help! For example, my girlfriend has recently got a betta, started MMA and is researching snakes for the possibility of a corn snake. It's kept her busy and she's happier nowadays. Just a thought there, the more productive you keep yourself the happier you'll be 
I'm really sorry for your loss, I'm hoping things will look up for you. Stay strong!
I'm really sorry for your loss, I'm hoping things will look up for you. Stay strong!
Losing your Dad is a brutally hard thing for a Son. I know the feeling well as I lost my Dad when I was only 25 years old. He was only 52 yrs old and prostate cancer took him from us in a very short time frame. I come from a VERY close family and my Dad was everything to me so I was totally devastated by his passing. At the time me being young and so impacted by losing him I handled it the wrong way. I drowned my sorrows in a fifth of vodka a day and spent the next 10 years in & out of bars, jail, bad relationships and just down the wrong road.
I got lucky and finally after years I realized (better late then never) that I was not handling it the proper way. So I'm now a recovering alcoholic, and even quite smoking 7 yrs ago. It's been just over 21 yrs since we lost dad and I still miss him every day, but it is something I have come to accept now and can handle it in a way that is not self destructive.
I won't lie to you and say it'll get better soon, because when you lose someone you truly love then it does not get better for awhile. What I can tell you is it will get better a tiny bit at a time as long as you try to go forward with your life. Week by week and month by month you'll have a little be more acceptance of it. It's not easy but just try to use mindfulness and focus on simply what is going on in the exact minute and not the next minute or next hour or next day. After a while you'll notice you still miss him greatly, but you'll be able to accept it and appreciate the time you had with him and continue on with your life like he would want for you.
I wish you the best.
I got lucky and finally after years I realized (better late then never) that I was not handling it the proper way. So I'm now a recovering alcoholic, and even quite smoking 7 yrs ago. It's been just over 21 yrs since we lost dad and I still miss him every day, but it is something I have come to accept now and can handle it in a way that is not self destructive.
I won't lie to you and say it'll get better soon, because when you lose someone you truly love then it does not get better for awhile. What I can tell you is it will get better a tiny bit at a time as long as you try to go forward with your life. Week by week and month by month you'll have a little be more acceptance of it. It's not easy but just try to use mindfulness and focus on simply what is going on in the exact minute and not the next minute or next hour or next day. After a while you'll notice you still miss him greatly, but you'll be able to accept it and appreciate the time you had with him and continue on with your life like he would want for you.
I wish you the best.
This is so true.
FAT Daddy, I don't think I could offer and wisdom that would lessen your pain. Just know it's ok to feel the hurt and grief. Let it all out. As days go by it stings a little less. Look forward to your future and the many experiences that awaits you and your family and friends.
22nd of Feb. 2017
That dude with the big catfish gave good advice. It was nice of him to include his own life experience. I appreciate all da advice. Is a mutt another word for a troll or somethin? Anyways thanks to everyone whose feedback wasn't censored.
Maybe this thread is too personal and controversial. Anyways, I'm going to focus my time on designing some earthquake safe aquarium set ups. California authorities, y'all please try to encourage people to build their tanks low and attached to wall studs in the house. Trump is President, weed is legal and the earth is shaking. God have mercy on us all.
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