Thanks everyone.
I bought them from another local hobbyist. I really do love the male, the female is nice too, but I really like the barring in the female and my female has none. She does have deep reds, oranges, yellows and greens, but know bars.
They have been having monitored visitation for a long time now. Then overnighters.

Then he was able to hang for a while as long as he played nice. He was just about to get separated again for constantly chasing her everywhere, but he wasn't hitting her or biting so I held off. Then yesterday saw tubes dropping, and the rest is history.
So today they are getting a small water change, and a high 5.