Fin shape of Dempseys suggesting gender is complete hogwash...
A very dominant Dempsey is likely to have pointy fins regardless of gender, but most big strong dominant Dempseys are males. The pointy fins are much more a result of Dominance than it is a suggestion of gender.
I have a pair wherre both male and female are impressive fish and both have very pointy fins... consequencly both males & females of their offspring tend to have well shaped pointy fins.
I have also been growing out many broods of Dempseys in the process of breeding Blue Dempseys and I have seen just as many pointy finned fish turn out to be female as I have seen turn out to be male. I've also seen a trend that fish with pointy fins seem to produce more fish with pointy fins...
I cannot state this as fact... but I am completely convinced that pointy fins are much more of a locale characteristic and has absolutely nothing to do with gender.