Ok I understand. The more water you change, I could kill him by adding in all that cold water. Makes sense. I will have to find a happy medium in this dumpy kitchen sink I have at work. The gravel cleaner is the python. I just realized its the same part to clean the gravel as it is to change the water. Ok so check the nitrate before assuming it needs a water change. Test kit should be in today!
Get one of these meat thermometers. I use them for every water change during fill ups to make sure I'm as close to tank temps as possible. I let the water run in a cup and take the temp.
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I let the tap run until the temp stabilizes, usually up to 3 minutes. Especially important in the winter when the pipes are cold.