thank you so much that makes a lot sense now..I believe I know your problem. 99% sure.
If your tap water comes in acidic and rises over time with aeration (gas exchange) then it is VERY likely that your tap water is high in CO2. This is fairly normal, especially with well water.
In water CO2 forms carbonic acid. This lowers the pH. It's a little different than dealing with other acids as if doesn't consume alkalinity, but will still lower pH. This means that after the CO2 gases off, the pH will come back up.
Your fish are breathing heavy because they are dealing with water high in CO2 and likely low in oxygen. Again, this is typical when you pump water from the ground. We pump 100,000 gallons of water from our well every day at work. It all has to run through a degassing tower or else it would kill our fish.
I would heavily aerate the water before or while adding it. This is easy with a small tank as you can let a bucket sit out for a couple of hours or just add an airstone to it for maybe 10 minutes. With a larger tank I'd add an airstone in the tank and keep it running as high as possible. I would also try to increase how much the new water mixes with air by spraying it into the tank or by dispensing it from higher up, creating lots of bubbles as it plunges into the tank.
You could also try to make some sort of an airlift that the water must flow through on its way to the tank.
Feel free to ask more about this if you're curious. Again, this sounds like a textbook case of dissolved gases. You should also aerate to prevent supersaturation of nitrogen. It's a silent killer for fish. Also common in water pumped from the ground.
just now, i tested my tank ph again, and it reads 7.1.. for aeration and surface agitation i use 2 big ass airstone with big pump, and also i added wave maker so i hope that is enough..