PLEASE remember to be KIND!!!!

[pinfish]

Hello all,
I took a break from this sight in order to focus on my school work. I found myself spending WAY too many hours on here poking around trying to learn more about how to keep my fishies happy instead of studying for exams... whoops! I logged back on today and I've been noticing a lot more negativity than there was about a month ago. I know that the whole virus situation is causing a lot of overwhelming stress and fear, but lets all try to remember why we are on here: to help, learn, share, and enjoy other enthusiasts company. Please try and remember that everyone is entitled to their own opinions even if you think that they are wrong. Also remember that there is a difference between critical feedback and pointing fingers and shaming. There's not a lot of positive energy going around in the world right now so lets all do our best to keep this site our safe haven! Love you all!!!!

 

[Matteus]

Very well put. I agree.

 

[fishhead0103666]

What exactly do you see as being negative? I see no differences.

 

[EntoStentor]

Me neither. Obviously yes, I agree with being respectful, but I haven't seen anything much worse. A lot of the more negative members have been banned. OP should look at the fishhead's thread where people offered to financially support Jexnell if he needed it. That was one of the best things I've ever seen on MFK.

Maybe you've been browsing different sections than I have, but I haven't really seen anything.

 

[fishhead0103666]

Me neither. Obviously yes, I agree with being respectful, but I haven't seen anything much worse. A lot of the more negative members have been banned. OP should look at the fishhead's thread where people offered to financially support Jexnell if he needed it. That was one of the best things I've ever seen on MFK.

Maybe you've been browsing different sections than I have, but I haven't really seen anything.

How has the coronavirus affected your personal life?

I figured we should have a thread to discuss how this disease has affected us personally in our day to day lives. I'll post my own stuff when it is not 3 am.

www.monsterfishkeepers.com

The thread has turned out quite nicely.

 

[MrsE88]

I haven’t been on here as much as I normally would be, but I haven’t noticed any increase in negativity either.

I do think a reminder to be kind to others is always good though
We should strive to be the best part of someone’s day and not the worst.
At the same time comments and criticism should be taken with a grain of salt. Some people will reply more bluntly then others and it isn’t ment in a harsh or hurtful way.

 

[Stanzzzz7]

I've been described as blunt in the past, and probably been described as a lot worse. I do believe if someone is treating an animal badly(especially if they have already knocked back good advice) then so be it.
Animals don't have a voice, we do.
As fish people I think it's only natural to frown apon suffering and bad practice.
I also like to see praise and acknowledgement of those being fair to their animals or at least taking on board the blunt, yet well intentioned advice.
Not every situation is a Ray of sunshine unfortunately. On that cheery note, goodbye.

 

[EntoStentor]

I've been described as blunt in the past, and probably been described as a lot worse. I do believe if someone is treating an animal badly(especially if they have already knocked back good advice) then so be it.
Animals don't have a voice, we do.
As fish people I think it's only natural to frown apon suffering and bad practice.
I also like to see praise and acknowledgement of those being fair to their animals or at least taking on board the blunt, yet well intentioned advice.
Not every situation is a Ray of sunshine unfortunately. On that cheery note, goodbye.

Well said. Blunt reply about replying bluntly.

 

[RD.]

This topic should be moved to the Lounge.

If I add a smiley face, this will probably come across as helpful, and surrounded with good intention.

 

[duanes]

I agree respect is mandatory but. because....
Fish keeping is a combination of art, and science its hard to weed out inexperienced opinion from facts.
In art, opinion is normal, and to be expected.
In science not so much, most info is quite cut and dried.
The problem comes in when, or if
10 experienced aquarist say a 50 gallon tank is too small for an adult oscar based on reality, but 1 or 2 inexperienced people voice the opinion that the tank is suitable, because its just fine after their 3 months as a fish keeper.
Is that opinion really valid?
And if a noob takes the advice of those 2 over the 10 without knowing background, the end result is often a disfigured, less than healthy oscar.
So to me, opinion is only valid when based on true experience, and scientific knowledge which is often not the norm on forums.

Sometimes it works the other way....
most freshwater aquarists have the "opinion" that protein skimming only works for salt water.
But is that opinion based on here say, or actual science.
Being a lab rat, I did experiments that proves it works just fine on fresh water, so mob opinion does not always make it right.
Below a video of protein skimming in my fresh water pond.
Anyone who has visited a waterfall like Niagara Falls, or Iguazu has seen it naturally occurring, yet it amazes me, how majority opinion can often be quite blind.
koi pond fractionation