First, I would change the hard 90 to a sweep or tubing, and keep the drain line as straight as possible down to the sump.
Second, Make sure the inside diameter is consistantly 1.5" all the way through to the sump.
Note: My overflow is flowing 1600gph through 1.5" like a champ, in fact, it is its rating from the factory.
Third, Try to break the flushing effect by either running a piece of airline tubing through the assembly or like others said, valve at the 90.
There is no reason why 1290gph shouldn't drain through 1"-1.5" drain. You could also use a small 90 inside the overflow pointing down below the water line to reduce noise.
I dont think your sump is to small, I think it is to empty. Let the sump fill with everything off. It should fill to about 3/4 full. with everything off.
If you are trying to run the sump without any of the media being submerged, I dont think that possible.