Our public school system sucked sooooooooo bad they took Baltimore the city that reads off every buss stop. We still got buss stops but they dont say anything bout reading lol
question for parents about your parents!
- Thread starter WckedMidas
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I think its hard, thing to deal with all round with your family. I would have a sit down with your dad, treat him like you would a teenager. They look for respect but are going to push the boundaries, so lay it out explain why you want your son to be around him, but straight talk him and say if he doesn't harness the yap then your going to have to limit it and that is not what you want or what you feel is good for your son but he will leave no choice then follow through. You are going to have to be firm with the resolve not to allow your son to come around him if he doesn't stop. Eventually he will get it and will tone down, but its a hard thing to do, but you need to be firm. Keep the respect as he is your father, but make sure you can make good if you are going to have to "punish him" by not bringing your son around.
Ex's suck, and its twice as hard when you are trying to keep the peace and others are stirring the pot.
Ex's suck, and its twice as hard when you are trying to keep the peace and others are stirring the pot.
Here is a thought for you.
Unless you absolutely hate your father this will not work. If you do not hate your father here is what I would do.
I would sit down have a coffee, drink, soda or some kind of beverage with him and tell him the most important words you can tell your parent I LOVE YOU!
I am pretty sure this would rock him down to his foundation. Then try to open a dialogue with him to let him know how much this issue is troubling you and causing grief.
Now I am no mind scientist, but, i would think that some of the issues with your dad might revolve around the very real fact that he is not all that he used to be.
Unless you absolutely hate your father this will not work. If you do not hate your father here is what I would do.
I would sit down have a coffee, drink, soda or some kind of beverage with him and tell him the most important words you can tell your parent I LOVE YOU!
I am pretty sure this would rock him down to his foundation. Then try to open a dialogue with him to let him know how much this issue is troubling you and causing grief.
Now I am no mind scientist, but, i would think that some of the issues with your dad might revolve around the very real fact that he is not all that he used to be.
hes a hard man to get along with. I try to only go around him if me and him are going fishing its easyer to keep peace like that. But my son spends the summers at there trailer where the pool and pond and stuff is. Pluss there winter house is a block away from mine. My fathers great with my kid except bad mouthing his mother and her boyfriend. Now trust me i wouldnt pee on either one of them if they were on fire. But i dont talk bout them in front my kid. My father does it and dont realise hes doin it. And he forgets he does it. Age is catching up with him. I tried explaining that to my kids mother but shes hard headed and thinks the worlds aginst her. All im saying is she moved 3 and a half hours away and gave my son to me the day befor school started last year. This was less then a year after she won custody from me. And she dont see him like she should. But i dont bring that up to my son because he dont like her boyfriend either but he loves his mom. And i would never try to take his love for her away from her. My father i duno
Just got so much on my plate its crazy. and now this stuff comeing up its like wtf can i just kick him in the groin!
Just got so much on my plate its crazy. and now this stuff comeing up its like wtf can i just kick him in the groin!
I suggest you tell him that he is a negative influence on you and your kids and that he will have to tone it down or else you will have nothing more to do with him. You are carrying a heavy cross and he is making it heavier. If he is a member of a church I would have a word with his pastor.
Be direct with him.
When I was little, I had a Grandfather that drank like a fish. By that, I mean he would crack one open for breakfast and carry a buzz until he fell asleep.
My Father didn't want to expose me to the same things he had to go through growing up around that - so we never visited. At one point my Grandfather finally asked why. My Father told him flat out - You drink too much, and my son won't be around that. If you quit, we'll be there more. My Grandfather stopped drinking at the drop of a hat.
When I was little, I had a Grandfather that drank like a fish. By that, I mean he would crack one open for breakfast and carry a buzz until he fell asleep.
My Father didn't want to expose me to the same things he had to go through growing up around that - so we never visited. At one point my Grandfather finally asked why. My Father told him flat out - You drink too much, and my son won't be around that. If you quit, we'll be there more. My Grandfather stopped drinking at the drop of a hat.
NAh no church for my pops. He was raised in the church joined the army to get away from it lol. Got married soon after to his first wife. My moms the 4rthlol I got no shame Im shore some people are thinking this guys a nut puting his buissness on the forum. But i need outside opinions. i had talk with my moms explainin the situation beins she sleeps with him maybe she can convince him to stop. Befor i have to have the talk. Because i no nomATTER HOW I APROACH THE SITUATION . iTS GONNA BLOW UP LIKE THE 4RTH OF JULY, NEW YEARS, Hes a stuburn old bast ard
