Question why do people feal the need to use the word retard?

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Some words dont have to be directed towards a single person to insult said person. Its like this my son dont come on the forum for this reason. If you are in school and u call a special needs person retard what happens? U get in trouble. if your at work and u say the word and there happens to be a special needs person around. Your not saying it to them or towards them But what do you thinks gonna happen when they tell your boss your saying that in his establishment? Depending type of establishments your gonna be fired, sent home, imbarased infront of your peers, maybe made to apologise to said person. maybe take classes . Some words some terms just arent aceptable in a educational , work, school, church, out in public,. I grew up with a kid. Was special needs little slow. I watch a kid make fun of him one day from up the street. Befor i could get to my friend to help him out;. He done grabed said person broken his nose and was slaming him on a car hood. Was very funny but never should have happen. And said kid wouldnt have went to the hospital. Kids parents came up was gonna make my friends parents pay doctors bills. They found out why it happen and kid got the belt all the way down the street.
And yeah my kids in a wheelchair. And no he wouldnt like to be called retard. And he dont like seeing or hearing other kids in school useing it .
 
Dan F said:
I highly doubt that most people are saying that something is delayed or made slow when they are calling something retarded. If you call something retarded you more likely mean "stupid" or some other adjective meaning unintelligent. This is why using the word "retard" or "retarded" is almost always offensive. It is even more offensive to people who have seen mentally disabled people suffer under the appellation.

Saying that "calling something retarded is simply a statement, like saying that water is wet" is only correct if you are saying something like "The fire was retarded by the application of foam". Otherwise it certainly isn't a statement of fact but rather of one's opinion.
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Mental retardation
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Mental retardation
Classification and external resources
ICD-10 F70.-F79.
ICD-9 317-319
DiseasesDB 4509
eMedicine med/3095 neuro/605
MeSH D008607
Mental retardation (MR) is a generalized disorder appearing before adulthood, characterized by significantly impaired cognitive functioning and deficits in two or more adaptive behaviors. It has historically been defined as an Intelligence Quotient score under 70.[1] Once focused almost entirely on cognition, the definition now includes both a component relating to mental functioning and one relating to individuals' functional skills in their environment. As a result, a person with a below-average intelligence quotient (BAIQ) may not be considered mentally retarded. Syndromic mental retardation is intellectual deficits associated with other medical and behavioral signs and symptoms. Non-syndromic mental retardation refers to intellectual deficits that appear without other abnormalities.
Mental retardation is a subtype of intellectual disability, although that term is now preferred by most advocates in most English-speaking countries as a euphemism for MR. However, intellectual disability is a broader concept and includes intellectual deficits that are too mild to properly qualify as mental retardation, too specific (as in specific learning disability), or acquired later in life, through acquired brain injuries or neurodegenerative diseases like dementia. Intellectual disabilities may appear at any age. Developmental disability is any disability that is due to problems with growth and development. This term encompasses many congenital medical conditions that have no mental or intellectual components, although it, too, is sometimes used as a euphemism for MR.[2]
 
WckedMidas said:
again where does a person being fat versus special needs have anything in common. If someone is fat again 99 percent of the time they can go on a diet and fix that. Special needs people dont have that option. I wish my kid could change his diet and be able to walk that would be the greatest but he dont have that choice. Wish my sons condition was as simple as needing a diet.
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I strongly disagree about your idea that 99 percent of the time FAT PEOPLE can change their body shape. How different is that from an alcoholic needs to simply stop drinking, I do not see it any different than being a "special needs" they didn't have the right tools/science to learn better or retain memory better 99 percent of the time its should-have-beens. To judge others because they didn't excerise enough or make better choices or is a result of their environment is just as guilty too as the person who used the word "retarded" I hated it when my family said to use "hearing aids or cochlear implant" so I can instantly hear again it wasn't some instant cure it all fix. So how different is that from telling a fat person they gotta excerise and eat right from a deaf person being given hearing aids and being told to wear them and practice understanding what sounds mean? How different is that from telling a developmentally delayed person they gotta read books and practice and practice until they understand 99 percent of the time?

I work in a group home yes with deaf adults with behavioral/cognitive problems. I know what it is like to be disabled myself as I'm "hearing impaired" which is a term I totally hate seeing that word being used everywhere.

But I don't go around judging people for using the word "retarded" because back in the olden days moron, idiots, morons and retarded was a word they used in psychology to describe a person with ID (yes its now PC term instead of Developmental delayed "DD") I don't go around wishing I was an alcoholic or brain damaged by an accident of some sort instead of being deaf. Its the cards that life has dealt with me and I'm dealing with it day in and day out.

Its more annoying when someone gripes about being disabled and being discriminated then be judgmental about if it was so much easier to be in another condition. REGARDLESS of what condition life is thrown at one, its still essential to show the respect of another person regardless of what they are from all walks of life, fat or not is included too.



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re·tard   [ri-tahrd, for 1–3, 5; ree-tahrd for 4] Show IPA
verb (used with object)
1.
to make slow; delay the development or progress of (an action, process, etc.); hinder or impede.
verb (used without object)
2.
to be delayed.
3.
a slowing down, diminution, or hindrance, as in a machine.
4.
Slang: Disparaging .
a.
a mentally retarded person.
b.
a person who is stupid, obtuse, or ineffective in some way: a hopeless social retard.
5.
Automotive, Machinery . an adjustment made in the setting of the distributor of an internal-combustion engine so that the spark for ignition in each cylinder is generated later in the cycle.
 
WckedMidas said:
no its not a statement. if you or someone close to you had special needs you would not feel that way.
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I'm afraid... I have to disagree. My sister was 'retarded' and it doesn't bother me to hear the word used.

About the only time it would bother me is if someone walk up and called her retarded to our face. But even in a general conversion talking about 'disabled' people and calling them retarded never bothered me.

Also using it loosely never bothered me either.
 
Proteus said:
I strongly disagree about your idea that 99 percent of the time FAT PEOPLE can change their body shape. How different is that from an alcoholic needs to simply stop drinking, I do not see it any different than being a "special needs" they didn't have the right tools/science to learn better or retain memory better 99 percent of the time its should-have-beens. To judge others because they didn't excerise enough or make better choices or is a result of their environment is just as guilty too as the person who used the word "retarded" I hated it when my family said to use "hearing aids or cochlear implant" so I can instantly hear again it wasn't some instant cure it all fix. So how different is that from telling a fat person they gotta excerise and eat right from a deaf person being given hearing aids and being told to wear them and practice understanding what sounds mean? How different is that from telling a developmentally delayed person they gotta read books and practice and practice until they understand 99 percent of the time?

I work in a group home yes with deaf adults with behavioral/cognitive problems. I know what it is like to be disabled myself as I'm "hearing impaired" which is a term I totally hate seeing that word being used everywhere.

But I don't go around judging people for using the word "retarded" because back in the olden days moron, idiots, morons and retarded was a word they used in psychology to describe a person with ID (yes its now PC term instead of Developmental delayed "DD") I don't go around wishing I was an alcoholic or brain damaged by an accident of some sort instead of being deaf. Its the cards that life has dealt with me and I'm dealing with it day in and day out.

Its more annoying when someone gripes about being disabled and being discriminated then be judgmental about if it was so much easier to be in another condition. REGARDLESS of what condition life is thrown at one, its still essential to show the respect of another person regardless of what they are from all walks of life, fat or not is included too.



Cheers
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I grew up side by side with my deaf cousin ..i agree with you 100%
 
i should not speak for erica but we should not assume just because someone uses the word that they aren't close to a special need person. you may be surprised.

personally, i use it for slang just like many other words that some people could find offensive. i think nothing of it and do not associate it with special need people.

i think from a culture stand point, the african american community uses alot of slang so to me, i'm just use to it because nothing is literal
 
The plain and simple reason, which I cant understand why people dont get, is that when others call someone that, its almost like a separate retard than the real way of saying it or its real meaning. Thats what I get out of it anyways. When Ive called someone that, its true I just picture slow or goofy because thats whats been driven in our heads all these years. Then it just becomes habit. I do work around lots of people with it in the medical term, but I never even think to call them that and I dont think of them when I called someone else that. It might not make since to you but its the way I feel when it happens.
Is it ok, pry not, the more you see it bothers people, the more they may stop, I thin you just cant be so mad at them if its never even crossed their mind they way it has yours. So like someone said, in time, just like EVERYTHING else, things change, things dont happen over night. Ive called my coffee table the N word after jamming my toe on it, Im so far from racist its crazy, but that just came out, and in time it wont. Even though it was something random, I know how the majority feels about it. I hate it too, it just comes out, pathetic really, but habit like anything else not healthy.I used to play b ball with alot of black friends and everyone was saying it, now in time it slows to a halt, this will too.

If you ask me, almost nobody says it while thinking of anything other than the word not even in its true meaning, not meaning it as bad as you think, and just try to name people that wouldnt love and take care of someone with the real deal , I cant.

I think your way to mad at people who will change in time, and start seeing it bothers more people. and you are forgetting that NONE of us walked in the others shoes to be inspired and shaped by the surroundings and influences they have had. I think if you care so much about people as you do someone who is in fact retarded, then you should care about the people who are not meaning to pis you off as well, we ALL have issues that pis us off about others, try to be more understanding, you dont have to agree by any means, just be careful, its got you quite mad and thats not a healthy way to resolve it.

Me, I would love to be able to work with the mentally and physically challenged, just way to busy to handle years of school for it, Ive met some wonderful people though with special needs, just great kids.

PS, this is just off the top of my head so dont take it over the top, Im just saying what I think a lot of people feel up front. It up to us individually to search deep inside to change habits, just give it time, and be careful how you do it because I dont think its something people should be attacked over just yet, its kind of a newer issue on a broader scale now than it was.
 
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