Oh as for the she, I just think its a girl purely from speculation lol. Just got a feeling. But feeding was so horribly painful.. I just left it in there for a day and if it wasnt eaten then take it out and try again with a fresh piece of shrimp. I tried to starve her to get on pellets several different occasions but I would always give in.. At 5 inches she would go over 3 weeks and I couldnt take it. If she was older sure 3 weeks is nothing but at 5 inches its very dangerous. I never met a fish that would turn down frozen Hikari blood worms, expect my huge jag.
I would never turn the lights on as she would ram into everything even more. I couldnt even walk into my own room without having her run into something and mess up her barbs. Stayed like that for a while.. but its worth it. At around 8 inches they warm up to you and its really personal and rewarding. But when you feed frozen blood worms, throw it in there hard so its splashes and leave the room. Always works for me.