fishnoob;3179458; said:
jeff rapps said he sent me a female
How large was it when he sent it?
Blue Dempseys are very difficult to sex. Having raised quite a few of both males and females, I do not know of any consistent physical differences. Females do turn very dark when spawning, but by the time they are spawning you already have witnessed pairing behavior...
Venting is the only way to sex them... and the younger the fish the more difficult to vent...
Many people do rely on the idea that females grow slower, and assume that slower growing fish are females. While this is often true, it's not reliable at all. It becomes even less reliable when dealing with a species/morph that is well known to have growth issues, like the Blue Dempseys do.
Jeff knows Cichlids very well, so he may have learned something I've overlooked... or if he sold you the fish at 3.5" he may have witnessed this fish in pairing behavior...
Also, just to share my experience... I've had 3 Blue females pair off with other fish... one produced fry just fine (with standard & 'Gold' Dempseys)... one produced weak fry (with standard & 'Gold" Dempseys)... The other has laid eggs only with a Blue male and the eggs always turn white (the other two females produced fry with Blue dempseys, but they were always weak and died soon after free swimming)...
Thus, in my experience, it works better to use Blue males x Standard females to make 'Blue Gene' producing pairs... This kind of pairing also makes it easier to match them via size/aggression...