THe one I lived with for 6 years was a model,into theater,worked with lots of ppl and was very into style,not overly into her self but you know.We were still realy growing into ourselves though,she was maybe 26 at our break up.THis girl is entirely diferent in looks but just as beautiful to me.Aw makes me sick,I love her sweet face,cutest little body.However she hates it,wishes she was the tall model type.Im not used to someone thats awesome looking needing to hear it all the time,wanted the typical coments up front when I was more into makeing it mean more by saying it at special moments.Plus I told her all the time so whatever,lol.She has very few hobbies,likes a few of mine but never takes off with any.Can just sit and do sodoku for hours,falls asleep early,dosnt want to go to the gym with me,hates large crowds,overthinks everything,does everything by the book,rarely are we on the same page,we are just so diferent that were always jackin the moment for the other person.Still,I love her to death,we hav a very tight special bond but we just miss on so many other targets,it has very much been a job.She has far more good qualities that I dont need to mention but for one,she was more down for her man so to speak.Not materialistic,reliable,honest,loyal and special in so many other ways but you know,work is work and this should be harder than my day job.So I need one down the middle of these 2,lol.
relationship likers only please,help.
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jason longboard;2201079; said:
no one ever said it would be easy...relationships are work... as the relationship grows it is even more work..because then... you are working for the long haul..... the relationship that lasts through time...
They say the best cure for an old love is a new love.
for some people that easily toss away who they are in the quest to make a relationship work thats not a great idea,some downtime is in order.But for someone who is centered and has a sense of who they are the best thing you could do is get involved with someone else.Even if its only a few dates and a few laughs.
I'm not a person that takes relationships lightly,this wed I'm married 14 years to a woman I first dated 25 years ago.
for some people that easily toss away who they are in the quest to make a relationship work thats not a great idea,some downtime is in order.But for someone who is centered and has a sense of who they are the best thing you could do is get involved with someone else.Even if its only a few dates and a few laughs.
I'm not a person that takes relationships lightly,this wed I'm married 14 years to a woman I first dated 25 years ago.
so to get back to I quess my main concern,out side of trying to get over whats happend and the thought it might go back,are their still girls between 25 or so to my age that want what I may have to offer?You know,non gold diggers,non barbie girl,non over materialistic,loyal women that want to share a life with a well rounded guy like myself,lol.I just get frightened that everyone is trying to be such the rock star they are not and so dang into themselves.
you probably won't believe me...but i quarentee that there are so many women out there right now feeling the same way you are...they want someone genuine..not into themselves..sensitive and caring.. now the trick is to find each other...
jay im going to shoot straight girls are never pleased me and my wife all the time but you take the good with the bad if you love her let her go and if she loves you and its meant to be she'll come back i was gone on this site for 3 months cause me and my wife where fighting and i moved out and now im back and we seen we couldn't be apart so give each other some space and hopefully everything works out you seem to be a great guy so i think you'll be ok
thanks bro,it really has been a mutual decision but it still sucks.Your always hoping you are doing the right thing and you should have just changed your ways more to fit.However knowing that its work,it in our heart has been far more work than it should have been.When your at work you should be looking forward to the weekends or the night making dinner with your girl,but we were more stressed about it.We knew that we just couldn't go a night without some bs,not just the norm bs but enough to drag you down.Like I said,we still cherish so much good stuff but damn we just cant take anymore fighting.The way we fight isnt even constructive either which makes it worse.I was used to someone who would want it to be ok soon and not let me drive off,we would both poor in the sorry s and kiss and make up.This girl would get worse as it went and start saying more hateful things,I would just leave and hear nothing,come back and it would just be all screwed up still.I hate when 2 ppl are just taking stabs and not trying to resolve the prob.Not make it personal,but focus on why your ideas arent the same,just more constructive but you know,that is a tough subject.Anyways,we just were always feeling opposite from each other,EXHAUSTING,sad,but true.
to clear one thing up,we would be much more calm after a fight,itss not that she wanted to keep fighting,it just wouldn't be pleasant the rest of the night.Anyways,didnt want her to sound like a beast,lol.We just bought the beast out in each other,hey thanks again for your responses guys.
