ok well im glad that the con is a male. i guess ill just have to wait until the fh gets larger to sex it again. the JD im still unsure but it sure is a slow grower compared to my other fishs. although, its the most aggresive and dominant one in the tank to even my oscar which is about 5-6". thanks everyone! any other input on what you think the jd sex might be would be helpful, thanks!