Okay the 'out' is easy........They will act as overflows moreless.......
Attach a fitting to the hole in the tank, then glue(or use some unions so they can thread apart) a piece of PVC pipe or ABS to the fitting, now the pipe you install must be as high as you want you water level to be. This way your WHOLE big tank can't back-drain into the small tank, only a slight amount of water will come back down. I would use both the holes and have 2 overflow pipes like this, if one gets clogged atleast you have the other., and your tank won't overflow. This way your waterlevel is always set and again can't back-drain your whole tank. If you don't use them both as overflows then your setting yourself up for disaster.
For the return from the sump run pipework up and over the side of the tank(since you only have 2 holes drilled). I would then build a spray bar from a piece of pipe to distribute the water, only thing you need to know about the return is to drill a hole in the spray bar where your water level is, if you don't your spray bar could suck back too much water to the sump and then the sump overflows. With the little hole drilled at the water level when the power goes out you won't get a back-siphon, it will suck in air and break the siphon.
What size are the holes in the tank? you have to size each overflow to be able to flow MORE than your return pump. The max GPH of your return pump will also be determined on the size of the holes you have in the bottom of the tank.
These are thing's that have to be figured out first, So let me know and we can continue on from there. If there is anything that is unclear in my babbling just let me know.......