pft, I thought my female was a bad parent, the male didn't fertilize them! They all slowly died so maybe he did, who knows. I haven't done a water change on the tank in 2 weeks either. I'm always worried to do water changes when I think my fish are going to breed. I always think it will break up my pair if I mess up the tank. Now that all their eggs are dead they're going to get a 80% or so water change when I have the time.
When the filter kicked back on it didn't throw anything in the water, and I also had another HOB, canister filter, and sponge filter on the tank. Think it was just a stupid male. Funny thing is that I set up a 20gallon with a rose queen flowerhorn in it last night about 6" away from their tank. They've been trying to fight him off ever since.. He's messing with them too lol. Rather have them take their aggression out on a fish they can't reach rather than their tank mates which have been fine so far.