First of all, WELCOME~!!
if you haven't bought the tank yet I would suggest a 75g, the width of 55g is ok for just 2-3 but not the most idea. the 18" width of the 75g makes a big difference, it'll make the fish turn around more comfortably (when they get bigger of course) and gives you more aread to play with aquascape as compare to the narrow 55g's 12" width.
now to your questions
1) personally I don't like using fake plants, they look...well....fake. there are some plants can be used in low light setup, amazon swords, java ferns, some java moss, etc. there are some fake silk plants that looks decent but that's totally up to you how you like the look. real plants also can help with take care some of the nitrite.
2) driftwood release tannis which will make water turn into tea color (aka black water), some people like the look of blackwater and some don't (piranhas love blackwater). if you want to reduce the tannis in driftwood before you put it in the tank you can soak it in a bucket over a period of time (replace water every few days) that will remove some of the tannis or you can boil the wood for a good amount of time. usually 15 minutes but I've tried to boil some driftwood for couple hours and the water still truns into blackwater. but with weekly water changes the tannis eventually will disappear and your water will be clear again.
you do however want to give the wood a good scrub regardless you boil it or not. soak it for a while then scrub, then you can either put it in your tank righ away or boil it or let it soak some more.
3) both sand and gravels can be used, some like sand better some like gravel better, it really depends on which look you like better IMO. but other than looks there are some pros and cons such as gravel can trap debris easier than certain type of sand, there's higher chance of sand getting into filter if filter intake is positioned too low, etc. and as for color I would stay away from some unnatural color, such as pink, red, orange, blue, etc...especially if you want to make the tank look as natural as possible. dark color substartes help darken the color of your fish and light color substrate lighten the color of your fish.
if I miss anything I'm sure others will fill in